Surely “fuck off you stupid cunt” is the only reasonable response to such a request?
maybe next time you go and vote instead of looking at tiktok
Where does the article say she didn’t vote, or that she was even 18 ten months ago?
If you’re a minor being questioned like this, start screaming PEDO. Guaranteed they back down once they realize what she said and what they’re doing is quite disturbing
She’s not a minor.
You think the genital police can tell the difference between an adult and a child?
Nope, shout “Fire”. No one comes for rape, I doubt anymore come for pedo. But fire? They’ll come.
I feel like yelling fire will make people run away, not toward.
BWW is a trash ass company!! I was on restrictions where I couldn’t lift anything more than 5lbs and then couldn’t be on my feet for a prolonged time due to a back injury I had at the school I taught and this manager has the audacity to tell me I still could work a double and yelled at me about how messed up it was that I couldn’t come in (I had doctors notes and gave him notice). I then so upset called corporate and complained about what happened to me and they promised to follow up and ensure that doesn’t happens to anyone else given my doctors notes. Well come to find out, he was fired two weeks after my corporate complaint! So hopefully they do the same because that company is truly horrid and that server is a POS! NAME HER! Haha.
So you called out a shitty boss\employee to upper management and they fired him. I’m pretty sure that response means they actually do care about these kind of situations. Sorry you dealt with a manager that didn’t understand an applicable HR situation, but that doesn’t mean the whole company is trash. Hopefully they do react the same for this situation.
This is fully sexual assault
But it is for their own good. Without measures like this, they might end up in bathrooms with perv… hey wait a minute. 💡
And this is in a state with no anti-trans bathroom laws. This server has no excuse other than being a complete piece of shit. Wish they’d name and shame her.
Based on the article the server is a woman.
“She made me feel very uncomfortable,” Mudra said. “After that, I just don’t like going in public bathrooms. I just hold it in. … I want to be able to use the bathroom in peace.”
My point still stands, but thank you for the correction. Fixed.
She should press charges for harrassment.
I consider this a sexual act on a minor, so file a police report.
She’s 18. It’s the second word after the headline.
Yah but, like, she works in a coal mine.
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That’s why I bring my ID and passport to restaurants. Gotta prove I’m white, hunkydory, citizen and male. Having to show my dick in public places gets old quick. But then I need to show I’m black or Chinese for other things.
can we switch to gender neutral bathrooms please?
But can you prove your gender is neutral? 🧐
All I know is that my genitals say “maybe”
What makes genitals go neutral?
Lust for gold? Power?
Two magic 8 balls and one of those tubes that goes wuuueaugh when inverted
It’s when your crotch is flat, obviously, like a playmobil
If you’re completely flat then there’s your proof
You can show them your flat pics
Alternative version: you show them your intersex official member card™️
Yes
In a society where women are often harassed, many women use bathrooms to escape men, even if just for a few moments of peace.
There was a place in Japan I went to that had 2 bathrooms: one gender neutral and one women’s room. I don’t know if that solves everyone’s problems (or anyone’s) but I thought it was interesting.
The problem is, with women like this server around, you can still get harassed in the bathroom even with no men present. So I’m not sure it has much value as a refuge at this point.
Everywhere needs at least one single occupancy gender neutral restroom.
But saying that, I’ve been harassed while trying to use a porta potty. Can’t win for losing.
If you’re being harassed, I feel like going is a closed space like a bathroom is probably the worst idea possible
It seems like these news stories only get written when the victim is a cis person mistaken for being trans.
Pretty sure you’re right that there’s more articles about cis people being “inconvenienced”. However I can think of at least 3 reasons off of the top of my head:
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there are way more cis people than trans people. While I strongly suspect that a larger percentage of the trans community is affected compared to cis people, purely by numbers it’s still more likely to affect cis people more frequently just because there’s so much more of them. Depending on which statistics you listen to only 0.5% - 3% of people are trans.
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trans people (and especially the ones who do not pass particularly well) are more likely to avoid public bathrooms now. Cis people are more likely to not expect any issues and not think twice.
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Apparently a decently large part of the right wing voter base would agree with trans people being denied entry into bathrooms. It’s what people decided this “law” was for in the first place (not that that this law was even applicable here). However if you show those same people that someone they empathize with also is negatively affected that’s more likely to lead to change.
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The last one before this I read was an ftm guy, Luca Strobel, who had to use the woman’s bathroom since there were no stalls in the men’s.
https://lemmy.ca/post/45048725
https://lemmy.world/post/30614642Though, those publications are considerably less mainstream, so you still have a point.
It’s because trans technology is so advanced that they all pass undetected. /s
In all seriousness, I think it reflects just how distorted the anti-trans bigot’s perception of reality is and how enabled they feel to act on those perceptions. These people believe that trans people are more common than they actually are and they are hyper-fixated on proving it.
I think your critique of the “not a problem until it affects me” nature of this is valid; however, this also signifies that transphobia is becoming less rhetorical and more actionable. That is terrifying for anyone who doesn’t meet the arbitrary socially acceptable expressions of gender.
My hope here is that more people will come to realize how stupid transphobia and gender/bathroom policing is when they start to realize that it affects them, too.
Welcome to Republicans’ America. This comes right after Trump’s administration started forcing trans folks out of the military, yet denying them retirement benefits. People with 15-18 years of service to our country that had been previously approved for early retirement have now had that rescinded because they are “medically unfit”. The hatred is in full force…
having their retirement stolen from them is fucking vile
I’m actually surprised that I have not heard about people dying as a result of this
I’m surprised there haven’t been lawsuits around breach of contracts
It’s gross that the victim of this scenario is now made public and yet the sexual abuser identity here is protected? Wtf.
It’s also worth mentioning Buffalo wild wings in the comments. Because they apparently don’t have enough policy to keep their servers from trying to gender check people.
It’s also worth mentioning there’s only one BWW in Owatonna, Minn.
I doubt there are two of anything in Owatanna. Except maybe Holiday (gas station owned by Couche-Tard)
The Republican way
It looks we’re one step away from someone having to physically “verify” someone’s gender.
“I only inserted my fingers into their vagina to make sure that it was real.”
“I touched their penis to confirm that it was indeed real.”
… and I feared for my life from the genitalia touchers, so I started blasting.
https://imgur.com/gallery/cats-dont-draw-BG6ex7S
Alt text - A comic of an androgynous person being asked “Hey are you MALE or FEMALE”. The person’s response is “Yes.” A follow up question being asked “Ok but which do you prefer”. Response “Cats” (with a little heart). Another follow up question is being asked “No I mean what’s in your pants?!!” The person raises their shirt to show a pistol underneath the waist band of their pants with their response “A gun”.
With a gun, right?
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Removed by mod
Even the mods agree. You gotta burn bad behavior back before it spreads.
What an absolute fascist restraunt
you keep using that word… i do not think it means what you think it means
You’re right, BWW probably isn’t fit to be called a restaurant
arguing with absolutism vs expediency i see
