Whenever you do good indirect deeds for someone. Mainly because some people don’t expect or normally wouldn’t have wanted things to be done in certain ways because it could get them in more shit than they were in the beginning. But sometimes doing things for the good on their behalf is a benefit.

I just wouldn’t mention it to them because it could sometimes create an issue where you may sometimes be faulted or may get into an argument about the morals of having done such thing. So by not mentioning it, it spares you from having to deal with that. I think it also has a net benefit because it doesn’t make you look like you do good things for PR reasons.

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    Outside of online, I dont mention that I know COBOL. I used to put it on my resume and the kind of offers I would get…where VERY bad. Or had some huge red flags.

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    Unless I absolutely have to for logistical reasons, I refuse to talk about me being a vegan to others.

    It typically results in a debate in which I have no desire to participate. I’ve had the same conversations with people over and over again in my 9 years being vegan. I always either have to censor my opinions, or I end up upsetting someone when I say I think this thing they’re doing is morally wrong.

    People rarely engage the topic with genuine curiosity, they usually just want me to assuage their cognitive dissonance and tell them “oh the way you eat animals is totally acceptable!”

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      bUt HoW Do YoU GeT PrOtEiN!?

      Im not even vegan, but just imagining the conversations for 10 seconds Im already sick of it.

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        Also not vegan but I try to limit eating animals. The next statement is usually “BuT pLaNtS aReN’t A cOmPlEtE pRoTeIn!1!1!1”

        Like my entire diet consists of carrots. It’s crazy how some people don’t even look at nutrition values but believe they know what their body needs.

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    That’s a lot of words to say you prefer to be an anonymous good samaritan.

    I don’t mention that I had cancer because people get weird about it.

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    My negative thoughts, mostly. Even if you don’t believe in do-gooder fallacious platitudes like “If you can’t say anything nice, don’t say anything at all,” the truth of the matter is it eases social instances to just not bring negativity to the table unless it’s really needed (which is usually to shut someone down who’s being an asshole, or seriously weighing pros and cons of something.)

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    Almost everything… except work-related stuff. I’m a very proactive communicator at work.

    But my coworkers don’t know how old I am, my birthday, or how many kids I have; and my family similarly knows nothing about my coworkers. I’d tell them if they asked, but until then…

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    Countless topics and those change by the setting.

    I am too lazy too list them.