For those out of the loop, WomensStuff has a women-only rule, where men are respectfully asked to not reply to posts.
Blocked that comm, just so I wouldn’t accidentally violate that rule. No sense in getting emotionally invested in a post I’m not allowed to discuss.
Right? Pretty easy solution.
I just came here to say it’s a men’s world they live in it and many times they hate us for it, but it’s the truth.
This discussion reminds me of a party/orgy/something I saw being promoted and in the description it says that it was female/trans oriented (female and male trans included), but that they weren’t going to police anyone’s gender, but asked cis males to respect and didn’t participate.
You see this more in LGBTQ+ communities, they are all about inclusion, but when a hetero sis male wants to be included they aren’t the biggest fan of it. As long as they don’t discriminate it’s fine, but still ironic
Might want to look into why that is…
This has always been one of the top tier funniest meme images to me.
Yeah, they can be real mean in their locker talk
“Men don’t feel as deeply as people like to imagine they do” - an idiot who has apparently never read men acting like absolute fannies literally all over the internet forever.
Nice random strawman
The fucking comments on here are insane. It’s not a private comm, and pretty much every comment that’s been deleted for being posted by a male user was because they explicitly stated they were male. As in started off a comment (usually on women’s issues) with “as a guy…”
Go on a linux forum and post “as a windows user…”
Go on PC gamers and post “as a console gamer…”
Would have a problem with being told “this is not for you” then? No, you wouldn’t. You’re literally just not used to being told it’s not your turn to speak. Get over it.
And to those who demand it be taken off all: fucking learn how to curate your own experience. Skip over or block it the same way you would other communities that have nothing for you
Go on a linux forum and post “as a windows user…”
Go on PC gamers and post “as a console gamer…”
Would have a problem with being told “this is not for you” then? No, you wouldn’t.
This is a terrible example, because yes absolutely I would indeed consider the mods to be militant over-the-top a-holes if they deleted and blocked all comments just because they were from Windows or console users.
Facts right here. Learn how to let people have their own space. Sometimes a thing isn’t meant for you, and that’s okay.
You’re literally just not used to being told it’s not your turn to speak.
I respect their rules on that community as browsing Everything (Sync) it shows up for me fairly regularly and I haven’t had any issues.
I reject the part I literally quoted.
I care about precision in communication and fighting against entropic decay in how we communicate so I feel compelled to respond to this quote.
I am a male and because of that I have no turn to speak there so you are flat out wrong. It will never be my turn. It is inaccurate what you are saying.
Please consider reframing what you said.
and using literally there makes your error much more egregious, literally
Mate, i’m ASD and saying dial it back.
Yeah, I concur. When I learned I wasn’t allowed to speak there, I simply blocked it and moved on. They can have whatever rules they want. No one is obligated to be there.
On the flip side, I can see it being irksome to click a post and have your comment be deleted because you didn’t notice that community it was or didn’t read every rule for every community.
I’ll wager the vast majority of users don’t read community rules until they run afoul of one. Personally, I just shrug it off and move on, it’s not like whining about it is going to make an entire community change it’s rules to accommodate you.
Eh, irkers can sit down. It’s long been a thing about paying attention to community rules before posting, and if you don’t and violate them, you don’t get to whinge.
To be fair the vast, vast majority of the rules are simply common sense stuff. If you are not an asshole, you can avoid reading community rules and in 99% of case you won’t violate any.
I feel based on the name of the community, some rules would be obvious. But a “absolutely nothing from you, male scum” isn’t obvious.
I posted one there yesterday or this morning, haven’t checked on it, but it’s probably deleted now. No harm no foul. It wasn’t meant to break a rule, and they can do what they want. But I would’ve never even known if not for this post.
But I will be blocking the sub now. Both because I’m apparently not welcome, and because I will probably accidentally do it again otherwise.
Edit: It wasn’t that sub after checking. Phew. One less toxic place to be.
I feel based on the name of the community, some rules would be obvious. But a “absolutely nothing from you, male scum” isn’t obvious.
Rules…
Women only… trans women are women, and transphobic or gender critical talk isn’t allowed. Anyone under the trans umbrella (e.g. non-binary, bigender, agender) is free to decide whether a women’s community is a good fit for them.
I understand, you’re a man, you have an opinion, and being told ‘no’ just won’t cut it, will it?
Did you miss the first 9 words you quoted or something? Seems like you’re misrepresenting what was said in quite a profound way.
OP claims it’s not obvious from the title; you claim it’s obvious from the rules; Both of these statements can be true at the same time.
Also, now that they’re aware, they’ve blocked the community to prevent any engagement… Can you explain how that translates to them not accepting the situation?
BS, we had the same argument on Reddit
- TwoX was militant about no guys
- whatever men’s subreddit was welcoming to women’s reply but wanted them to be honest what gender they were
So as a guy on some men only subreddit, I also welcomed the opinion of women while expecting them to clarify.
As a nerd in many “year of Linux on the desktop” debates, I welcomed constructive opinions from the benighted fools
As a PC gamer I want to game with my buddies so yes I want the opinion of those on consoles
So as a guy on some men only subreddit, I also welcomed the opinion of women while expecting them to clarify.
So you’re ok with a community defining how it wants people outside its demographic to interact with it?
Also you literally do not have to interact with the community. No one is shoving it in your face or demanding you join and then going HAHAHHAHA PSYCH you can literally just scroll past it.
Just block the sub if it bothers you and wipe your mind free. That’s all there ever was to it.
Well, aren’t the majority of these replies depressing. Imagine looking at a minority group that tries to make a private corner for themselves and going “yeah but they haven’t heard my take yet!”
Looks at litterally half the population: “This is a minority”.
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I didn’t even get a chance. Post came up, I didn’t check the sub, posted a comment, Admin told me politely to get fucked and banned me.
Not a big fan of an attribute you were born with making you ineligible to comment in a community, but their community, their rules.
They allow trans women. They just want to a space to talk about women things away from men because men tend to say stupid shit when women want ro complain about us.
As I woman, it is finally my turn to say stupid shit
That’s good, but being trans is also an attribute you are born with. I get why they do it, and if it works out well for them, I’m not gonna say they’re wrong for doing it. I would just never do it myself.
I mean, that’s fair. I guess you could consider trans to be an attribute you’re born with, but I generally consider trans to be a part of our gender expression, which science has described as being incredibly fluid which is why we not only have trans people, but we also have genderfluid people, and non-binary people, and other varieties along that spectrum as well.
Well, it happens quite regularly that men make absolute shit comments in the community, so its not that much of a stupid rule. Sometimes people dont have to care about everyone else’s opinions on certain topics.
Oh, I don’t think it’s a stupid rule at all. I completely agree with the fact that they have a rule. If people want a space like that, that’s totally fine by me. Just pointing out to this person that it’s not based on a biological imperative.
Yeah, misread your comment a bit :)
Anyone who thinks they are a feminist and also that women-only-spaces are unfair unwise discrimination is not a feminist and is a bad ally. Kill all men. Thank you.
This post might or might not have been written by a man. Misandry is good actually. Don’t be a male feminist.
I consider myself to be a feminist because my axe bites all flesh equally I will shed the blood of not just the men but the women and children too!
BLOOD FOR THE ALLFATHER! SKULLS FOR YGGDRASIL! KILL KILL KILL!
I have no horse in this race I just want to make references to old memes.
I too have made this mistake 😔
I think I blocked it so I wouldn’t do that again
I politely asked to get banned.
disagree with the rules, but ain’t my community, I ain’t invited, and I will politely respect it.
imagine walking into someone’s private party, only to complain that I wasn’t invited, and how dare they exclude me!!!
When someone is using the bathroom I expect them to close the door. If they’re letting it all out in public, yes I might walk in
if I open my house door to let the breeze in, it isn’t an invitation for you to come in.
Well your house is not in a mall though
That only really holds if you somehow didn’t know the comm/bathroom was occupied.
Unless you the type of person who’d ignore the rather strong, social signs that the people in both the comm/bathroom don’t want you to join them when they’re in there. In which case…weird.
You might peek into an open bathroom by mistake but you back away and make a note for the future.
this is a trap
No, no, this is bait
