To be fair, my area of expertise is the girlfriend experience, so I understand how venting could be part of that. Still, I find the trauma dumping exhausting.
If you think about having a gf, there’s a lot more to the relationship than sex. Nonsexual physical intimacy, much less anything emotional is extremely lacking for the average male not in a relationship.
Yeah, see, I’m thinking “order 1 gfe to go” isn’t for me.
I’ve been separated/divorced (for about 2, years) from a relationship where the intimacy was one sided. For 11 years I stayed married cause that was the only girlfriend I had too.
A GFE sounds like it would be a nightmare for the provider. Especially because I don’t know how I’d handle it emotionally.
I can’t speak to it as I haven’t done one but I can get the desire. I never went on a date or had a gf or any sexual experience until I was 25 and it wasn’t for lack of trying…paying for it would be a sort of bandaid to the issue of loneliness but I wonder if it decreases the chance of becoming an incel.
At the high end, escorts have to go to events, dress well, be able to hold an interesting conversation, and essentially be in a relationship for a predetermined amount of time. Sometimes sex isn’t even part of the equation.
For as long as they’ve paid for. They pay me thousands $ per hour, I perform flawlessly until the end and provide a quality service. I have a reputation to uphold.
Now I’m curious about the pay, may I ask how much you were able to take as a beginner vs now? :D I have no clue how much prostitutes actually take either, even though it’s a perfectly legal job here it’s like a parallel world my sheltered ass has no contact with
Edit: You only just joined lemmy?? Welcome to the nerd club!
How about trauma-dumping-less chatter? Just some friendly chatter. Good ol’ wholesome interaction. Just chillin together. No trauma, just hanging out. Just a… friendly thing. Wonder if that’s common, and how one feels about it
The girlfriend experience is essentially my bread and butter. I genuinely love it. It’s actually one of the main reasons I got into escorting in the first place, the human connection.
Oh, what is the girlfriend experience, exactly? Just… act the part? As a girlfriend? Honestly, as someone who’s never been in a relationship, not sure what that would entail. Hanging out? Going to movie theaters? What exactly makes someone a girlfriend vs. a girl friend, a gal pal, a woman friend?
The term “girlfriend experience” basically means it’s not just about sex, it also includes companionship, connection, and emotional closeness. Some escorts don’t offer that at all; they just provide sex without the added personal side of things. The great thing about the girlfriend experience is that it’s totally customizable based on what the client wants. They get to define what it means. For some, it might be traveling together, going on dates, attending events, or just hanging out as friends. For others, it might include passionate nights and a deeper level of intimacy.
Hmmm… interesting. Do you ever end up actually becoming close to someone? Does it ever become something natural, like, outside of business, or is it always just a “job”, so to speak? Like, do you ever become friends with someone, hang out? Not sure my question makes sense
Also, how much is one willing to go? Like, what’s the limit, here, in terms of closeness? You mention travelling, going on dates. Is there a point where you’re like, “ok, this is enough closeness” or something? Cause I assume this isn’t, like, a relationship per se. Like, a romantic one. So something like spending life together is probably out the table, I imagine. Gotta imagine at some point you have to draw a line and remind them, if needed, that you’re not in a relationship together.
Honestly, this sounds quite interesting. Minus the sex. Guess I need to find myself a friend. Or a girlfriend. Idk, never quite figured out the difference between those.
Apologies if I say something wrong. I mean no harm. Just curious. You, of course, need not answer anything you don’t want to. Be comfortable above all
At this point in my career, I’m established and well-connected enough that I can be picky about who I see. These days, I mostly stick to long-term, regular clients. When you’re seeing someone consistently, of course a connection develops, but I’m a professional, and they respect that, so things never cross the line. A lot of them come to me specifically because they value that kind of professionalism and discretion. As far as boundaries go, I’m pretty flexible emotionally, I don’t really have any hard limits when it comes to closeness or connection. Physically, I do have a few firm boundaries: no girl-on-girl stuff, nothing degrading or humiliating, and things along those lines.
What exactly is the line, if you don’t mind me asking? Like, what is the difference between a girlfriend and someone who plays the role of a girlfriend?
Could you end up friends with someone? Like, not in a romantic relationship, but actual friends? I mean, I guess it’d hurt business if you befriend and start hanging out with clients, like, outside the job. I mean, I wouldn’t charge friends, but professionally, being your profession, it makes sense. But if it were to develop into a friendship, independent of business…
Also, what exactly is it they value, here? That they can… experience a relationship knowing it’s never gonna go past a line? Like, a relationship, but… not really? Not trying to diminish or lessen the relationships you have, of course. Or your line of business
Also, is it common for women to seek such experiences? Or is it mainly men who seek the girlfriend experience? I mean, thinking of the girlfriend experience, specifically. If it is a common thing with women.
For me, the line is clear: no commitment, no off-hours extended interactions, none of the serious features of a relationship. I’m not interested in breaking up families, becoming someone’s partner, or changing anyone’s private life status quo. I provide a service, a fantasy. I’m essentially an entertainer, playing the role of their dream girl. You pay, you get the service. No pay, no service. That’s the boundary, and it’s strictly professional. This also answers your question about friendships or personal relationships. The value for them lies in experiencing their own fantasy. They all know this is a paid service. Their reasons for seeking it vary, some do it out of boredom, others for no-strings-attached fun, some don’t have time for traditional relationships, some are dealing with family or marital issues, and others just want a guaranteed great time. + the discretion. All of my clients are men, and I’m certain this is a female-dominated profession.
All I needed after I creampied her was a big hug and a long kiss and then went our separate ways and then sexted about it until next time
We both ducked to forget our problems for 20 mins not focus on them !
It is, and it’s by far my least favorite part of the job.
Understandable, I too prefer sex over trauma
1 sex for me please
men will force a sex worker to be their therapist before going to therapy
It’s cheaper.
To be fair, my area of expertise is the girlfriend experience, so I understand how venting could be part of that. Still, I find the trauma dumping exhausting.
Wait so the “girlfriend experience” is more than just sex?
God see this is why I never bother to figure out how to find escorts. I don’t have time to figure out how it even works
If you think about having a gf, there’s a lot more to the relationship than sex. Nonsexual physical intimacy, much less anything emotional is extremely lacking for the average male not in a relationship.
Yeah, see, I’m thinking “order 1 gfe to go” isn’t for me.
I’ve been separated/divorced (for about 2, years) from a relationship where the intimacy was one sided. For 11 years I stayed married cause that was the only girlfriend I had too.
A GFE sounds like it would be a nightmare for the provider. Especially because I don’t know how I’d handle it emotionally.
I gotta date real women first. Somehow.
I can’t speak to it as I haven’t done one but I can get the desire. I never went on a date or had a gf or any sexual experience until I was 25 and it wasn’t for lack of trying…paying for it would be a sort of bandaid to the issue of loneliness but I wonder if it decreases the chance of becoming an incel.
That’s the “Escort” part.
At the high end, escorts have to go to events, dress well, be able to hold an interesting conversation, and essentially be in a relationship for a predetermined amount of time. Sometimes sex isn’t even part of the equation.
How long are you obligated to listen to these guys after sex before you can say, “And that’s our time.”
For as long as they’ve paid for. They pay me thousands $ per hour, I perform flawlessly until the end and provide a quality service. I have a reputation to uphold.
Everyone’s job has its difficulties. What are the difficult parts of sex work for clientele that can afford this?
Now I’m curious about the pay, may I ask how much you were able to take as a beginner vs now? :D I have no clue how much prostitutes actually take either, even though it’s a perfectly legal job here it’s like a parallel world my sheltered ass has no contact with
Edit: You only just joined lemmy?? Welcome to the nerd club!
How about trauma-dumping-less chatter? Just some friendly chatter. Good ol’ wholesome interaction. Just chillin together. No trauma, just hanging out. Just a… friendly thing. Wonder if that’s common, and how one feels about it
The girlfriend experience is essentially my bread and butter. I genuinely love it. It’s actually one of the main reasons I got into escorting in the first place, the human connection.
Oh, what is the girlfriend experience, exactly? Just… act the part? As a girlfriend? Honestly, as someone who’s never been in a relationship, not sure what that would entail. Hanging out? Going to movie theaters? What exactly makes someone a girlfriend vs. a girl friend, a gal pal, a woman friend?
The term “girlfriend experience” basically means it’s not just about sex, it also includes companionship, connection, and emotional closeness. Some escorts don’t offer that at all; they just provide sex without the added personal side of things. The great thing about the girlfriend experience is that it’s totally customizable based on what the client wants. They get to define what it means. For some, it might be traveling together, going on dates, attending events, or just hanging out as friends. For others, it might include passionate nights and a deeper level of intimacy.
Boy men sound sick! They want companionship, connection, and emotional closeness? Animals!
Hmmm… interesting. Do you ever end up actually becoming close to someone? Does it ever become something natural, like, outside of business, or is it always just a “job”, so to speak? Like, do you ever become friends with someone, hang out? Not sure my question makes sense
Also, how much is one willing to go? Like, what’s the limit, here, in terms of closeness? You mention travelling, going on dates. Is there a point where you’re like, “ok, this is enough closeness” or something? Cause I assume this isn’t, like, a relationship per se. Like, a romantic one. So something like spending life together is probably out the table, I imagine. Gotta imagine at some point you have to draw a line and remind them, if needed, that you’re not in a relationship together.
Honestly, this sounds quite interesting. Minus the sex. Guess I need to find myself a friend. Or a girlfriend. Idk, never quite figured out the difference between those.
Apologies if I say something wrong. I mean no harm. Just curious. You, of course, need not answer anything you don’t want to. Be comfortable above all
At this point in my career, I’m established and well-connected enough that I can be picky about who I see. These days, I mostly stick to long-term, regular clients. When you’re seeing someone consistently, of course a connection develops, but I’m a professional, and they respect that, so things never cross the line. A lot of them come to me specifically because they value that kind of professionalism and discretion. As far as boundaries go, I’m pretty flexible emotionally, I don’t really have any hard limits when it comes to closeness or connection. Physically, I do have a few firm boundaries: no girl-on-girl stuff, nothing degrading or humiliating, and things along those lines.
Congrats on your career achievements!
What exactly is the line, if you don’t mind me asking? Like, what is the difference between a girlfriend and someone who plays the role of a girlfriend?
Could you end up friends with someone? Like, not in a romantic relationship, but actual friends? I mean, I guess it’d hurt business if you befriend and start hanging out with clients, like, outside the job. I mean, I wouldn’t charge friends, but professionally, being your profession, it makes sense. But if it were to develop into a friendship, independent of business…
Also, what exactly is it they value, here? That they can… experience a relationship knowing it’s never gonna go past a line? Like, a relationship, but… not really? Not trying to diminish or lessen the relationships you have, of course. Or your line of business
Also, is it common for women to seek such experiences? Or is it mainly men who seek the girlfriend experience? I mean, thinking of the girlfriend experience, specifically. If it is a common thing with women.
For me, the line is clear: no commitment, no off-hours extended interactions, none of the serious features of a relationship. I’m not interested in breaking up families, becoming someone’s partner, or changing anyone’s private life status quo. I provide a service, a fantasy. I’m essentially an entertainer, playing the role of their dream girl. You pay, you get the service. No pay, no service. That’s the boundary, and it’s strictly professional. This also answers your question about friendships or personal relationships. The value for them lies in experiencing their own fantasy. They all know this is a paid service. Their reasons for seeking it vary, some do it out of boredom, others for no-strings-attached fun, some don’t have time for traditional relationships, some are dealing with family or marital issues, and others just want a guaranteed great time. + the discretion. All of my clients are men, and I’m certain this is a female-dominated profession.
All I needed after I creampied her was a big hug and a long kiss and then went our separate ways and then sexted about it until next time
We both ducked to forget our problems for 20 mins not focus on them !