• Duenan@aussie.zone
    14·
    9 months ago

    It’s my birthday today.

    My friend offered to get me a gift. Not sure what I want, maybe a Kmart milk frother?

    Chilling on the couch with my radio show on then I guess some footy watching and playing Hogwarts.

    Low key day today but a little concerned I haven’t heard from my dad yet. He sends me a birthday message every year without fail but he has been sick lately.

    Anyway I sent him a message just to let me know he’s ok because it’s so unusual for him to not contact me today.

  • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
    12·
    9 months ago

    Gratitude thread (not really feeling it today tbh but I guess this might help?)

    I’m grateful for giving myself grace for royally fucking up at work that will cause a headache tomorrow (fuck the shape of 50 cent pieces for jamming the cash machine). It’s not the end of the world.

    I’m also grateful for the nice orchids I saw.

    • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
      10·
      9 months ago

      I’m grateful for the roof over my family’s heads and for generally being a calm person. Elder said the other day that he misses me being around during the day “because you’ve got this aura of calm around you.” 🥹This is one of the nicest things he’s ever said to me, to anyone.

    • dumblederp@aussie.zone
      9·
      9 months ago

      I’m grateful for finding an unused Brother colour laser printer for $100 on Gumtree, and lunch in the sun with a friend at friends of the earth on Smith st.

    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
      9·
      9 months ago

      I am grateful for savlon antisceptic cream.

      Over the last few weeks have been so uncoordinated in the gardn, kitchen, moving stuff and sharpening knifes that 100yrs ago would probably need some sort of amputation.

      • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
        2·
        9 months ago

        I love savlon so much. I use it to calm my rosacea, I use it on my hands when they are getting a bit worn from house work. On every cut.

    • just_kitten@aussie.zone
      8·
      9 months ago

      I’m grateful for gyoza!!! And for tram drivers that dgaf if you fare evade for a couple of stops. And for the tax return I did yesterday… and this little pack of Victorian grown hojicha that a colleague gave me.

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      7·
      9 months ago

      Those orchids are beautiful! I’m grateful for the abundance of movies, tv and books available so easily without leaving home. It’s nice to chill out at home on a Sunday afternoon and pick entertainment on a whim.

    • Duenan@aussie.zone
      7·
      9 months ago

      I’m grateful for being able to catch up with a friend yesterday to celebrate my birthday.

      Was nice to get out and be social but it was still deathly cold.

          • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
            2·
            9 months ago

            Ah, the phone did it/jk. In recent years someone bought a firemen calendar for the boss as a secret Santa/joke gift, and I swear some people checked the calendar multiple times a day but could give no answer when asked the date lol.

    • underwatermagpies@aussie.zone
      6·
      9 months ago

      I bought some jonquils yesterday and they’re like little patches of sunshine throughout the house, brightening my mood. I’m also grateful for lazy Sundays, crosswords, tea, and blankets.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zoneOP
      6·
      9 months ago

      I am grateful for off the rack premade clothes. Sure beats processing hides, spinning wool and making clothes myself.

    • anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone
      6·
      9 months ago

      I’m grateful to have got some decluttering done and cleared quite a few boxes from storage. I have a hard time parting with stuff for a number of reasons, so this was a big deal for me. Still heaps to go but it’s good progress.

    • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
      5·
      9 months ago

      Grateful that my headache is gone for the moment

      For fluffybutt

      And for the 4 interviews I have this week. With any luck, on Tuesday I’ll be grateful to have a job

  • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
    11·
    9 months ago

    I am definitely getting tired and ready to call it a day. I just thanked someone because I opened the door for them.

    • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
      9·
      9 months ago

      If this stage in life is not conducive to a relationship, or is pleasant enough without one, then you’re under no obligation to have one, regardless of the opinions of family and friends. I have a lot of regrets over how little time of my younger life I’ve really lived for me.

      Otherwise, I think the important thing is to find someone who wants the same as you, no matter what that is. If you’re a “meet in the middle,” compromising person then it’s important that the person you’re with also has those qualities, or you’ll find you’re always the one having to be flexible, and may end up feeling taken advantage of. If you’re an individualist who wants to have a lot of independence and “room to move” within a relationship, and can’t bear the thought of “living in someone else’s pockets” then it’s vital to live true to that while that’s how your life is. A couple of friends of mine are very career forward people, spend a lot of time separate from each other due to the demands of their careers, but undeniably love and respect each other and aren’t clingy. It’s perfect for them. How do you know how it’s going to be with someone? You don’t always, or you think you know people but then they change, or you find out things you didn’t know. The arrival of children can complicate things that before seemed much simpler and more straightforward.

    • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
      8·
      9 months ago

      I sacrificed a lot for someone who hurt me for over 8 years, in varying ways. I grew up abused and it set me up for abuse later on because I had no idea what was normal. I almost had a kid with the cunt (thank fuck I made my own money and bought a plan b pill).

      But I would never let myself do that again. I know so much more now, about people, the world, and right and wrong. I got extremely lucky my one-night-stand turned out to be my person. We’re better together than we are separately. But if I hadn’t of met my current partner, I think I’d still be single after leaving my ex. Dating seems so dangerous now for vagina-owners (what with the tater-tots and “alpha” male shite).

      I’d never change myself ever again for another person. I’d compromise (like quitting smoking), but not on the big things (buying a house, having kids, etc).

    • Stephen Darby :ma_flag_aus:@mastodon.au
      7·
      9 months ago

      @wscholermann @Seagoon_ Fatherhood means - after a while you prefer the crust. All relationships involve some form of compromise. It takes a lifetime to find a good one and maintain it. My marriage and family life is worth it. I see more material on throuples and other arrangements, but that stuff is for my kids gen to work out - looks like a lot more work

    • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
      6·
      9 months ago

      I’m on the other side of the fence.

      Heartbreak and wasted time is a small price to pay for finding someone to share your life and love with.

      Our society values individualism to such a degree, that the idea of sacrificing something for someone you love seems unfair or that you’re “losing” something.

      I’ve noticed it with people I’ve dated that are western. Nothing wrong with it, it’s just different.

      But it never sat well with me. Seems a bit transactional…

      Admittedly my culture is different, so that’s probably why I don’t mind compromise. In a way, it’s an expected part of life. And so we work with that instead of fighting it.

      That said, there are fundamental aspects of who I am that I cannot compromise on. Because if I did, I’d end up resenting the person I’m supposed to love.

      /mild rant

    • SituationCake@aussie.zone
      1·
      9 months ago

      The thing is, compromise doesn’t always start out as effort. Early on in a relationship (or maybe youth is a factor?) it can feel easy to work with differences. And then over the years as we grow and mature sometimes our wants, needs and habits evolve and set firmer. Our world view can change, our life goals can change. But you might still love the person you’re with so you continue to try and make it work. Sometimes that works out and the relationships stays strong, sometimes it doesn’t. I think if I was starting over again at my age I too would be a lot less flexible in what I wanted in a partner. I know myself better.

      The other reason why people might stay in non-perfect relationships is that the way our society works, it’s centred around a couple being the primary relationship unit. So doing things like housing, child rearing, holiday companion, someone to help if you’re sick, someone to chat to if you had a bad day at work, etc, are all often done with a partner. Without a partner it can be hard work to build a network that can fill those roles, or you have to be happy to do it on your own. So yes there’s compromises, but if the partners value the companionship enough they may choose to tolerate the annoyances and personality differences.

  • Catfish@aussie.zone
    10·
    9 months ago

    The day of darkness begins much earlier than wanted. Power goes out shortly. Boo! Overusing heater in the hope warm will hold for a bit, then decamping for mini golf and boiling a ham hock.

  • Taleya@aussie.zone
    10·
    9 months ago

    bloody hell. Good days work there, considering how hard I went yesterday.

    Concrete pile moved, future food garden area cleared to the point where I can take out the last of those bloody stupid brick and concrete dividers, both green bins filled and a spillover barrel. 10K steps well and truly in, so I’mma gonna eat a giant bag of chips and watch a shitload of WWDITS w00t w00t

    • anotherspringchicken@aussie.zone
      5·
      9 months ago

      Beautiful day for some gardening. I love to work through all the things that are pissing me off with a few hours’ hard work outside, and a full green bin is very satisfying.

      • Taleya@aussie.zone
        4·
        9 months ago

        oh we have so much clearing to do we literally had to order another green bin as we work through it all. Once we’re set even the green bin won’t get much use, but there’s just too much to deal with atm

    • Catfish@aussie.zone
      8·
      9 months ago

      I am utterly ungrateful for the stupid dangling bits on the seam of my socks that have given me a blister

    • Taleya@aussie.zone
      8·
      9 months ago

      Punched a wall yesterday removing render and now have a raw knuckle that is all swollen and nonworky. I need that finger to pick my nose, dammit

    • Bottom_racer@aussie.zone
      8·
      9 months ago

      I put a studio subwoofer (weighs about 50kg) straight into a wall yesterday trying to get it down stairs on a trolley. Such a stupid mistake. I’ve fixed the hole (sort of) but everytime I walk past I just shake my head :(

    • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
      8·
      9 months ago

      A friend of mine passed away less than 2 months ago, and now her son has messed up big time (no sympathy, he really screwed up in a stupid unnecessary way) and is going to jail, I’d say for a long time. His boys lost their beloved Nan and now their Dad in less than 2 months and I’m pissed off about it. Also, the oldest of the boys is friends with my boy but I don’t know the mum, so they probably won’t see each other anymore. The kids are nice kids, but their little world has changed so much in such a short time, and I really feel for them.

    • LowExperience2368@aussie.zone
      2·
      9 months ago

      Amen.

      I broke something even more at work by attempting to fix it. And my headlight also died. The way the car is means I might have to take the whole front panel off to change it.

  • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
    10·
    9 months ago

    Mr P has finished remaking his bed out of bits of the broken/destroyed bed plus other timbers, and there was much swearing and insults while trying to get it into the house. Hey, don’t get shitty at me, I’m not the one who constructed a thing too big to fit through the damn door! We ended up putting it through the living room window and it just fit through. He hasn’t done too bad a job, but I’m not praising it on principle because he shouldn’t have smashed it up to start with.

    Edit: ok I probably will praise it a little bit. While I’m still a bit miffed that he broke the bed in the first place, it is actually pretty impressive to be able to make yourself a bed.

  • just_kitten@aussie.zone
    8·
    9 months ago

    I didn’t make it to Fairfield, but I did go to Hawthorn and probably spent a bit more than I expected to - picked up frozen tempeh from Grand Laguna because few places have the proper stuff, splurged on some mapo tofu flavour packets (I don’t use doubanjiang enough to have it in my fridge), got some tofu to use and some to freeze (I hear it has a good texture when frozen and defrosted), bought a bougie Flinders lime, and… most excitingly of all…

    …dropped $13.50 on a 30-pack of frozen Osaka Ohsho veggie gyoza from Japan. I cooked up 10 just now, but I have leftover oil in the pan and dipping sauce, so the only right thing to do here is make some more. What a travesty 😩

    • Pilk@aussie.zone
      6·
      9 months ago

      Last night was the first night post-solstice I noticed the sunset lasting a little longer. Thank goddess.

  • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
    8·
    9 months ago

    The worst part of a migraine, is when it subsides, you’re in a state of hypervigilance in case it returns.

    Bed, cat, iPad games and feeling sorry myself for today I think lol

    • StudSpud The Starchy@aussie.zoneEnglish
      1·
      9 months ago

      Which games? Always interested in trying new ones!

      On my phone I have Peglin and Slice and Dice. Peglin is a peg/ball, roguelite/like, rpg. Slice and Dice is similar but dice rolls instead of pegs. Iirc they’re like $10 each on the Play Store and that’s it. You get the full game. I think they’re also on PC.

      Card Games: I have Slay the Spire on my phone which is a cool game. Again, pay once and you own it.

      These games don’t have any micro transactions or anything. I play them all the time! Especially since my partner is using my PC to play Stellaris lol.

      Not sure if they’re on the Apple Store though, sorry…

      • Gibsonisafluffybutt@aussie.zone
        2·
        9 months ago

        I’m playing this game called Breach Wanderers. It’s like Slay the Spire, but more variety. I’m not usually into this kind of game, but it’s really good and kind of addictive lol

        I also play a game called Triple Town. I don’t think it’s on the play store anymore. If you check it out and like it, I’ll send you the installation file. Really, really good.