Found out today that the friend I’ve commented on about here who’s always late and does other things that are inconsiderate is cheating the Centrelink system. I’ve been friends with her since the beginning of high school, and she would come to school without lunch because her parents wouldn’t feed her and she didn’t know how to feed herself. Now her father just throws money at her, probably as an apology for not actually being a parent. She lives at home with her father, studying, and is unemployed, but her father lists her as an employee so he pays less tax. She is leeching off not only his money, but is now getting payments from Centrelink because her dad’s income is less than is what is reported due to the loopholes like this.
What has she done with this “free money” so far? No, she doesn’t buy groceries often or contribute to the household. She’s sent me pictures of the things she’s bought - $250 worth of lipsticks (half price on sale), a $250 bracelet, and a speaker for her PC. When it comes to going out for food though, she won’t spend more than $15 ever. Or she will drive (using her dad’s money for petrol) to places pretty out of the way to get cheap food.
Meanwhile, people on the DSP can’t move in with their partners earning an income, because the system thinks their partner can support them.
I’ve commented on all this before but it’s “free money” so she doesn’t care. I don’t engage with her when she tells me what she’s bought. It’s absolutely disgusting how the system allows for things like this. I appreciate that I can be my weird self around this friend, but the misalignment of morals and values we’ve got going is really rubbing me the wrong way.
I love that you feel like you can be your weird self around this friend, but it also seems like they weigh you down in so many other ways. There will be other friends out there that will prop you up without being a weight on the other side.
and also 🤷♀️, it takes all kinds of people and I gave up long ago wasting time and emotion on fretting on how other people live. I only have enough energy for myself, fam and friends and to help people in need.
So friend is not a really bad person? Then don’t worry about it.
Good looking out. May I suggest keeping this girl as only an acquaintance (or doing the slow fade) in case she or her father try to use you in unethical ways?
This girl has also shown potential to just leech off you with zero guilt.
oversharing about annoying friend
I don’t know why she told me all this but
Found out today that the friend I’ve commented on about here who’s always late and does other things that are inconsiderate is cheating the Centrelink system. I’ve been friends with her since the beginning of high school, and she would come to school without lunch because her parents wouldn’t feed her and she didn’t know how to feed herself. Now her father just throws money at her, probably as an apology for not actually being a parent. She lives at home with her father, studying, and is unemployed, but her father lists her as an employee so he pays less tax. She is leeching off not only his money, but is now getting payments from Centrelink because her dad’s income is less than is what is reported due to the loopholes like this.
What has she done with this “free money” so far? No, she doesn’t buy groceries often or contribute to the household. She’s sent me pictures of the things she’s bought - $250 worth of lipsticks (half price on sale), a $250 bracelet, and a speaker for her PC. When it comes to going out for food though, she won’t spend more than $15 ever. Or she will drive (using her dad’s money for petrol) to places pretty out of the way to get cheap food.
Meanwhile, people on the DSP can’t move in with their partners earning an income, because the system thinks their partner can support them.
I’ve commented on all this before but it’s “free money” so she doesn’t care. I don’t engage with her when she tells me what she’s bought. It’s absolutely disgusting how the system allows for things like this. I appreciate that I can be my weird self around this friend, but the misalignment of morals and values we’ve got going is really rubbing me the wrong way.
I love that you feel like you can be your weird self around this friend, but it also seems like they weigh you down in so many other ways. There will be other friends out there that will prop you up without being a weight on the other side.
I agree. Our mutual friend makes me feel that way.
You should ditch this person.
Seconded
Yeah fr.
😠
So what about the mum? What is she doing?
and also 🤷♀️, it takes all kinds of people and I gave up long ago wasting time and emotion on fretting on how other people live. I only have enough energy for myself, fam and friends and to help people in need.
So friend is not a really bad person? Then don’t worry about it.
The mum is a narcissist.
Edit: Sorry wrong thread
Good looking out. May I suggest keeping this girl as only an acquaintance (or doing the slow fade) in case she or her father try to use you in unethical ways?
This girl has also shown potential to just leech off you with zero guilt.
Absolutely. Never met the father but I stood in his shop once to wait for my friend and he didn’t even say hello haha
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