Bro came over w/ his bubs yesterday. Always nice to see the new addition but not quite sure what to think about it.
Basically he hasn’t been here to help (this is well before the bubs arrival when major shit was going down w/ ol’ girl) and is now not so subtly suggesting we look after the baby so they can have some respite as child care is too $$$. Saying other grandparents look after their grand kids… basically guilt tripping.
Ol’ girl is in absolutely no shape to do any of that (and it wouldn’t be safe for the bubs). He knows that but still pushing for it which I find remarkable.
Ol’ boy would be hopeless.
Might make me an arsehole but I’m not doing it on top everything else.
It’s just mind boggling how he’s even thinking that’s possible. I didn’t call him out on the guilt tripping (should have in hindsight) but i find the whole thing a bit poor.
Apparently the mum hardly leaves the house and sits w/ the baby all day on the couch. I pointed out that you see heaps of young couples out and about w/ their bubs. But you can’t expect to dump the bubs w/ two 80yr olds one with serious health issues and it’s fine.
Something tells me I should probably stay away from any conversations that go like that lol.
Apparently the mum hardly leaves the house and sits w/ the baby all day on the couch.
Yeah that’s not good. She needs to see her maternal health nurse or a GP. Your brother probably doesn’t know how to handle this. Asking your parents to look after a baby is definitely not the answer.
FFS. You’re already caring for old girl because old boy won’t, old boy is making you cook for him because she can’t, and now you’re expected to babysit so they can go off and have a fun little time (while never having helped you with anything).
Why is Bottom_racer being asked to do everything for everyone?
Bro came over w/ his bubs yesterday. Always nice to see the new addition but not quite sure what to think about it.
Basically he hasn’t been here to help (this is well before the bubs arrival when major shit was going down w/ ol’ girl) and is now not so subtly suggesting we look after the baby so they can have some respite as child care is too $$$. Saying other grandparents look after their grand kids… basically guilt tripping.
Ol’ girl is in absolutely no shape to do any of that (and it wouldn’t be safe for the bubs). He knows that but still pushing for it which I find remarkable.
Ol’ boy would be hopeless.
Might make me an arsehole but I’m not doing it on top everything else.
It’s just mind boggling how he’s even thinking that’s possible. I didn’t call him out on the guilt tripping (should have in hindsight) but i find the whole thing a bit poor.
it’s not actually possible, no amount of guilt tripping regarding respite and money will change that
it’s called parenting, I suggest one of the parents look after the baby while the other has some rest and recreation
but what they want is time to go to cafes together and such, not respite
I was surprised he used that word.
Apparently the mum hardly leaves the house and sits w/ the baby all day on the couch. I pointed out that you see heaps of young couples out and about w/ their bubs. But you can’t expect to dump the bubs w/ two 80yr olds one with serious health issues and it’s fine.
Something tells me I should probably stay away from any conversations that go like that lol.
Apparently the mum hardly leaves the house and sits w/ the baby all day on the couch.
Yeah that’s not good. She needs to see her maternal health nurse or a GP. Your brother probably doesn’t know how to handle this. Asking your parents to look after a baby is definitely not the answer.
Have there been health issues with the baby, because mum may be too scared to take baby out.
Even if not a visit to the GP would be a good idea.
These people sound incredibly selfish. To an insane degree man.
I honestly can’t believe they’d have the nerve to ask considering everything else that’s happening.
FFS. You’re already caring for old girl because old boy won’t, old boy is making you cook for him because she can’t, and now you’re expected to babysit so they can go off and have a fun little time (while never having helped you with anything).
Why is Bottom_racer being asked to do everything for everyone?