Welcome to the Melbourne Community Daily Discussion Thread.

  • fullkitwanker@aussie.zone
    11·
    1 year ago

    Word vomit ahead:

    I had the best day yesterday in a long long time. Met with a friend for some dranks and she’s a very close friend. I did have a crush on her about two years back (maybe I still do) but I’m not about to go tell her that now am I?

    Anyway, she was pouring out about her life and how she wants to get married by 28 and have 2 kids blah blah and was talking about her ex and their issues (which I won’t go into). Then she was talking about this mutual friend of theirs, how he ticks a lot of boxes for her but she felt weird after their interactions (all platonic). She gave me a few examples of certain situations that put her off but she wasn’t able to reconcile why. I put my analytical hat on and laid out stuff the way I saw it and she was genuinely surprised by what she had missed.

    Anyway, she then said it must be nice being me cuz I’m so happy and have a good job etc etc. Which is obviously not true and I told her as much, I just don’t talk about it as much because I’m a very private person. We then spoke about me and I told her a few things about me. A lot of it was self doubt. Starting with my biggest issue - not having a wide enough friend circle. I felt that I didn’t have the conversational skills, maybe I was boring, something about me that puts people off idk?? And she reassured me that I just haven’t found my people yet. That she loved hanging out with me and that’s a testament to this. She generally doesn’t hang out with guys 1:1 but she felt comfortable and safe with me. Anyway, I felt great after the chat as I really needed to get it out of me. She got a bit touchy touchy towards the end but I think she was quite tipsy.

    I think I like her but we have very different priorities in life. She wants to get married soon, and while I’m not completely opposed to that, it might be a bit early for me. She wants two kids and I’m borderline no kids / 1 maybe. Also she needs to get married to a Christian cuz family pressure (which I’m not). Also sucks that she’s exactly my type 😩. Oh well.

    Thanks for listening to my word vomit.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      4·
      1 year ago

      I have found that having different interests and to some extent different priorities is not the obstacle that society thinks it is.

      Compromise, respect and good will is most important. Usually a good partnership will nurture each person in their growth, interests and aims.

      Miss Seagoon learnt this the hard way, her 1st husband actively discouraged her career and interests to the point where discouragement wasn’t enough to stop her, he started abusing her. He just had no interest in an equal partnership or her as a person.

      What I’m saying is. If it feels very right then pursue it. This good feeling rare. You can sort out the rest later.

      • fullkitwanker@aussie.zone
        2·
        1 year ago

        That’s the thing though. I do want to pursue it but it wouldn’t be fair to either of us. She wants to get married soon, I don’t. She wants kids, I’m a maybe. And the biggest one is she needs to marry a Christian.

        • Catfish@aussie.zone
          4·
          1 year ago

          The religion thing can sometimes work out, but kids is utterly non negotiable. Somebody will end up miserable and resentful. Until you can absolutely say which side of the fence you fall on, something serious cannot be on the table.

        • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
          1·
          1 year ago

          I suggest talking about it with her.

          Family pressure will evaporate when they see how happy she is. :)

  • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
    11·
    1 year ago

    I am in trouble with Bill Cat. Ted Cat jumped up onto the bench while I was making my lunch ( Ted has alreay had two breakfasts and a bowl of lactose free cream ) So I smacked his bum and shooshed him off. Bill then reassured Ted and is giving me dagger stares. 😔

  • Dalek Thal@aussie.zone
    10·
    1 year ago

    Extraordinarily happy new Doctor Who is up (please no spoilers). That said though, fuck the BBC and their refusal to make anything pre-2005, nor any of the spin-offs available here.

    You’d really think they’d make it available, given we’ve been the only country in the world to have televised every episode at one point, but nope.

    And companies wonder why piracy is such a big fucking issue in this country…

    • Nath@aussie.zone
      4·
      1 year ago

      2005 was season one. There was no Doctor Who before then. 😃

      On a more helpful note, I don’t know whether you can get older content on Blu Ray in the UK, but if you can, they’re the same Blu Ray region as us. I’ve imported a few Blu rays from the UK, and they work fine here.

      • Dalek Thal@aussie.zone
        1·
        1 year ago

        Indeed, got my Torchwood collection that way. Might do some digging, see how much I can get a hold of. Thanks mate :)

  • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
    7·
    1 year ago

    If Saint Nick was exclusively a Melburnian what would he be like? Mannerisms, hobbies, clothes etc.

    For me I’d like to think him and the Mrs has a time-share in Mildura, spending time fishing and when they’re not there they’re down at the Country Club for a spot of lawn bowls.

    Also he doesn’t say “Ho Ho Ho Merry Christmas” he says “oi oi oi. What was that loud bang?”.

    • underwatermagpies@aussie.zone
      3·
      1 year ago

      He’d have some kind of gimmick to stand out. Perhaps a large carrot he could carry around. He’d wear footy shorts as part of his head to toe black ensemble.

    • Seagoon_@aussie.zone
      3·
      1 year ago

      H would be a good kind man helping the homeless and setting up scholarships for children, especially girls.

      In his spare time I think he would like reading, travel, internet chatting. and protesting child abuse in the church.

        • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
          3·
          1 year ago

          I dunno. I mean this is someone who has gone so far out of their way to avoid people they live at the North Pole and who makes sure that everyone has gone to bed before anonomously delivering presents. I thiink he’d be a total recluse.

          • CEOofmyhouse56@aussie.zone
            1·
            1 year ago

            I don’t think he’s a recluse because he’s got elves/henchmen around him but he might be a gamer when he knocks off for the day. He likes a TV dinner too.

            • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
              1·
              1 year ago

              Hmm, moving to the middle of nowhere with a bunch of elven henchmen. Who all dress alike and work day & night under the orders of a man who has set himself up as the sole moral judge of “naughty and nice”. Now I’m thinking cult leader.

              • Thornburywitch@aussie.zoneEnglish
                1·
                1 year ago

                Also delivers lumps of coal to the ‘naughty’ - could he be supported by Big Coal? Or the fossil fuel industry at least.

  • Nath@aussie.zone
    7·
    1 year ago

    Day 43/70: First day of week 7 weigh-in.
    Down 1.0kg. It’s funny, bike problems had me running to/from work two days this week. A spike in runs (72km this week) has not translated to a spike in weight loss.

    Edit: it was 0.9kg, but then I went to the toilet and lost another hundred grams!

      • Nath@aussie.zone
        4·
        1 year ago

        I want to be able to reliably run 10km in 45-50 minutes again.

        I haven’t been that quick since I was in an accident in 2019. My lunchtime runs are only 7.5km, because I can’t fit a 10km run into an hour.

        • dumblederp@aussie.zone
          2·
          1 year ago

          Are you following a running program? Or running a lot for 70 days?

          1.0 kg loss would indicate that you’re eating the right amount for the training. Your body has the energy to recover. You’re less likely to develop an injury. My last c25k I stopped because my knee started hurting.

          • Nath@aussie.zone
            1·
            1 year ago

            No program or anything. I usually just run every workday at lunchtime. I also cycle to/from work. I’m not particularly fast nor do I train for any specific events. It’s just for health/fitness.

            I have stepped it up to running on the weekend as well, but that’s been the only real change.

            • dumblederp@aussie.zone
              1·
              1 year ago

              I reckon you’d find benefit from a training program. Maybe for the next 70 days. There’s a bunch of methods to get more value from your training… if you want more value. I like lifting but I’m not a max lifter chasing big numbers, I just like my body to feel well tuned from lifting.

    • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
      2·
      1 year ago

      You’ll get there mate! Just keep plugging away at it. I’ve really dropped off on the exercises unfortunately… I’m finding it hard to gouge even 10 minutes out of the day for just me atm.

  • Force_majeure122@aussie.zone
    6·
    1 year ago

    Another to throw in to the GOAT album discussion: Aqua - Aquarium. It spoke the voice of a generation. Every single song would probably have topped the charts if released at different times

  • underwatermagpies@aussie.zone
    6·
    1 year ago

    Tommy Cat is pleased as punch, he’s just had sardines for supper.

    What he doesn’t know is that this is Last Rations: he has to fast from 9pm for dental surgery tomorrow.

  • melbaboutown@aussie.zone
    6·
    1 year ago

    Ah… the care is not yet booked. Filling out the form for her now and tomorrow I go get a gp referral for hospital. Gotta get the girl sorted before I go anywhere.

    Ginger ale and crackers for dinner. Delicious. I love it when it gets to this

      • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
        14·
        1 year ago

        If you are offering assistance for me to improve how the bot runs feel free to DM me, but I am not keen to just hand over control to someone else who may not be here when things need changing or break.

        It would also be nice if you could not disparage the bot we have. It may not be perfect, but as someone with absolutely no programming knowledge I have invested a huge amount of time figuring out how to get this far, with pretty much no help.

        • just_kitten@aussie.zone
          42·
          1 year ago

          I don’t think that person was disparaging botbot or you though, the efforts you’ve put in with your level of knowledge doesn’t necessarily negate the fact that running botbot off a laptop isn’t ideal either (people do take bots being hosted remotely and not going off on holidays for granted, it’s a bit like using Japan’s train system and then coming to Melbourne.)

          Instantly assuming hostile behaviour and distrusting others isn’t warranted and feels defensive in my humble opinion. I know Botbot has come a long way, but if someone’s offering help (and has before, to no response), don’t you and botbot deserve it? Especially if botbot can move to a cheap hosted server, that way multiple people have access to it and you can go on holidays rather than being solely responsible. And we don’t need to look askew at MissMeow any more.

          Full disclaimer, I’ve been in both positions before at work and I get that it stings.

    • PeelerSheila @aussie.zone
      3·
      1 year ago

      Miniest (almost 10) inspected it coolly and declared, “It is cake. I will eat it.” Elder (almost 12) said an appreciative “Mmmm” with a gleam of gluttony growing in his eyes. I think the cake could have Freddy Krueger on it and my kids wouldn’t be fussed lol.

      • Rusty Raven @aussie.zoneM
        3·
        1 year ago

        I was thinking nostalgically about the cakes from the Woman’s Weekly cookbook that used to be the norm. Then I found some pictures of people’s attempts and reconsidered that being a good idea. I am going to have nightmares tonight about being attacked and eaten alive by birthday cakes.

        cake

        This cake defies description