Yep. She said she doesn’t have time to see a psych, even though her uni offers them for free and it only takes an hour. She’s used AI to code most things these days, saying that it’s the processes that she needs to know, not the actual code itself…
Yeah… You seem like a good friend but please take care of yourself here and watch out. Don’t be the only friend she goes to and maybe distance yourself a bit.
Sorry if this is unwanted advice. It’s just in my twenties I had friends who were chaotic and insisted on using me as the go to while refusing to let me link them with more appropriate supports (or help them in practical actions to fix a problem), and I burned out so hard I had to drop them. Then I was the one not coping.
Assuming she’s able bodied and not incapacitated by her mental health your friend has choices here.
Even if they’re not something she wants to do, such as deferring for a while, withdrawing/failing and retaking the course, changing courses, or withdrawing/failing and going into work instead. I’m not sure how everything works now but she has options.
If she’s both physically disabled and her mental health is unmanaged/unmanageable she might actually be fucked but also you have the right to maintain boundaries and your own wellbeing.
Thanks Melba. I have linked her to appropriate supports and been encouraging. A voice of reason and self-compassion if you will. Now I will be disengaging to work on my own assignment due soon.
She is a student and has access to counselling and psychology through her uni. I sent her all the links. I think it’s all a mental thing for her, like it is for me.
Yep. She said she doesn’t have time to see a psych, even though her uni offers them for free and it only takes an hour. She’s used AI to code most things these days, saying that it’s the processes that she needs to know, not the actual code itself…
Yeah… You seem like a good friend but please take care of yourself here and watch out. Don’t be the only friend she goes to and maybe distance yourself a bit.
Sorry if this is unwanted advice. It’s just in my twenties I had friends who were chaotic and insisted on using me as the go to while refusing to let me link them with more appropriate supports (or help them in practical actions to fix a problem), and I burned out so hard I had to drop them. Then I was the one not coping.
Assuming she’s able bodied and not incapacitated by her mental health your friend has choices here.
Even if they’re not something she wants to do, such as deferring for a while, withdrawing/failing and retaking the course, changing courses, or withdrawing/failing and going into work instead. I’m not sure how everything works now but she has options.
If she’s both physically disabled and her mental health is unmanaged/unmanageable she might actually be fucked but also you have the right to maintain boundaries and your own wellbeing.
Thanks Melba. I have linked her to appropriate supports and been encouraging. A voice of reason and self-compassion if you will. Now I will be disengaging to work on my own assignment due soon.
she’s a drama queen
Absolutely
If you don’t have a lot of choices due to the service being subsidised some providers can be terrible. There’s also a shortage plus high demand.
But a lot of them do Zoom now. I think she just doesn’t want to. It’s easier to demand informal supports from a friend to just vent
Edit: Obligatory warning against using Better Help though
She is a student and has access to counselling and psychology through her uni. I sent her all the links. I think it’s all a mental thing for her, like it is for me.
Yeah, I completely understand the mental barrier thing. But it is something she has to do herself. You’re doing what you can