Yeah… You seem like a good friend but please take care of yourself here and watch out. Don’t be the only friend she goes to and maybe distance yourself a bit.
Sorry if this is unwanted advice. It’s just in my twenties I had friends who were chaotic and insisted on using me as the go to while refusing to let me link them with more appropriate supports (or help them in practical actions to fix a problem), and I burned out so hard I had to drop them. Then I was the one not coping.
Assuming she’s able bodied and not incapacitated by her mental health your friend has choices here.
Even if they’re not something she wants to do, such as deferring for a while, withdrawing/failing and retaking the course, changing courses, or withdrawing/failing and going into work instead. I’m not sure how everything works now but she has options.
If she’s both physically disabled and her mental health is unmanaged/unmanageable she might actually be fucked but also you have the right to maintain boundaries and your own wellbeing.
Thanks Melba. I have linked her to appropriate supports and been encouraging. A voice of reason and self-compassion if you will. Now I will be disengaging to work on my own assignment due soon.
Yeah… You seem like a good friend but please take care of yourself here and watch out. Don’t be the only friend she goes to and maybe distance yourself a bit.
Sorry if this is unwanted advice. It’s just in my twenties I had friends who were chaotic and insisted on using me as the go to while refusing to let me link them with more appropriate supports (or help them in practical actions to fix a problem), and I burned out so hard I had to drop them. Then I was the one not coping.
Assuming she’s able bodied and not incapacitated by her mental health your friend has choices here.
Even if they’re not something she wants to do, such as deferring for a while, withdrawing/failing and retaking the course, changing courses, or withdrawing/failing and going into work instead. I’m not sure how everything works now but she has options.
If she’s both physically disabled and her mental health is unmanaged/unmanageable she might actually be fucked but also you have the right to maintain boundaries and your own wellbeing.
Thanks Melba. I have linked her to appropriate supports and been encouraging. A voice of reason and self-compassion if you will. Now I will be disengaging to work on my own assignment due soon.