Do people often blame you for their kids doing those things?
People might tell you about it because… you know… maybe they think you’re a friend or maybe they’re just venting or maybe they’re making small talk.
Parents often make the mistake of thinking everyone understands what it’s like. They’re trying to find common ground by sharing those struggles.
If you don’t like it, just channel the conversation to something you do like. That said, sometimes it’s just good to let people vent. People like talking about their kids, and it’s a sneaky way to ingratiate yourself to them.
Of course its fine to dislike engaging with someone who complains about crypto or kids, but making a judgement on someone’s reasoning for having kids is a whole other thing.
Having kids doesn’t stack up for you. Totally fine.
However, asserting that your own reasons apply to everyone else is arrogant.
Iv basically never met a single parent that non stopped bitched about their kids that was also a good parent.
While iv also basically never met a single parent that wouldn’t shut up about how much they love their kid that wasn’t a good parent.
While a parent can do a little of both, it’s pretty damn obvious which way a person leans after even a short amount of time. People self report real God damn fast on this topic.
Do people often blame you for their kids doing those things?
People might tell you about it because… you know… maybe they think you’re a friend or maybe they’re just venting or maybe they’re making small talk.
Parents often make the mistake of thinking everyone understands what it’s like. They’re trying to find common ground by sharing those struggles.
If you don’t like it, just channel the conversation to something you do like. That said, sometimes it’s just good to let people vent. People like talking about their kids, and it’s a sneaky way to ingratiate yourself to them.
Think of it more like someone complaining that they lost money on crypto trading.
It’s very Billy Crystal SNL “oh I hate when that happens”
Sure ok.
Of course its fine to dislike engaging with someone who complains about crypto or kids, but making a judgement on someone’s reasoning for having kids is a whole other thing.
Having kids doesn’t stack up for you. Totally fine.
However, asserting that your own reasons apply to everyone else is arrogant.
Iv basically never met a single parent that non stopped bitched about their kids that was also a good parent.
While iv also basically never met a single parent that wouldn’t shut up about how much they love their kid that wasn’t a good parent.
While a parent can do a little of both, it’s pretty damn obvious which way a person leans after even a short amount of time. People self report real God damn fast on this topic.
And frankly there’s way more of A then B.