"But Rachel also has another hobby, one that makes her a bit different from the other moms in her Texas suburb—not that she talks about it with them. Once a month or so, after she and her husband put the kids to bed, Rachel texts her in-laws—who live just down the street—to make sure they’re home and available in the event of an emergency.
“And then, Rachel takes a generous dose of magic mushrooms, or sometimes MDMA, and—there’s really no other way to say this— spends the next several hours tripping balls.”
Did you do it at the same time as watching the kids?
Of course not but at work as a primary carer for other people’s kids is a very different scenario that at home with your own kids who are asleep while you have trusted sober adults on standby.
But I’m being told it’s absolutely fine to do. Why is it irresponsible with other people’s kids but not your own?
Because you can judge the risk for yourself and decide that at home with the kids asleep and someone on standby is within your risk tolerance. But it’s not ethical to make that decision for other people.
And it’s not just about others’ kids vs your own - there are many factors that make them different situations.