Honestly, I used to feel the same. But now… Not so much.
Shitty childhoods often develop into isolating behaviors. Isolating behaviors keep you from connecting with other people. Those people often give you hell, because you don’t have the skills to connect and they’re afraid of you. Which means you learn behaviors to keep others away from you.
One of my pet peeves is strangers being overly rude or dismissive or whatever when I try to do small kind things. Like you don’t need to acknowledge me for holding a door open, but don’t make eye contact with me and give me a stank face you fuckin creep lmfao.
If every time your parents offered you ice cream as a child, they beat the hell out of you, you’d soon start associating ice cream with with abuse. You’d expect it, as a matter of survival.
When you got older, someone offering you ice cream would trigger that fight or flight mechanism.
Mitigation is quite literally freedom from one consequence, in place of another.
Not by default, though i will say i phrased my reply poorly, what i should have said was.
a reason isn’t always an excuse
They are similar, but the implications and potential usages of each are different.
A reason is an potential explanation for an action/outcome etc.
An excuse is an attempt to use a reason to mitigate some or all of the consequences of an action.
An excuse always has a reason as a basis, but not all reasons are excuses.
The main difference is intent,
As an example, two kids get in to a fight, kid a is asked “why were you fighting?”
They say “they hit me so i hit them back”.
That can be both a reason and an excuse depending on the intent of the speaker.
As a statement of subjective fact, that would be a reason.
As an attempt to dodge punishment or consequences, it would be an excuse.
It can also be both.
If every time your parents offered you ice cream as a child, they beat the hell out of you, you’d soon start associating ice cream with with abuse. You’d expect it, as a matter of survival.
When you got older, someone offering you ice cream would trigger that fight or flight mechanism.
While potentially true, I’m not sure how it’s relevant.
Mitigation is quite literally freedom from one consequence, in place of another.
Honestly, I used to feel the same. But now… Not so much.
Shitty childhoods often develop into isolating behaviors. Isolating behaviors keep you from connecting with other people. Those people often give you hell, because you don’t have the skills to connect and they’re afraid of you. Which means you learn behaviors to keep others away from you.
I imagine the post was getting at the idea of intentionally being harsh to nice people, not talking back to people who are assholes.
One of my pet peeves is strangers being overly rude or dismissive or whatever when I try to do small kind things. Like you don’t need to acknowledge me for holding a door open, but don’t make eye contact with me and give me a stank face you fuckin creep lmfao.
A reason isn’t an excuse (or free pass).
It could be considered a mitigating consideration, but thats not an automatic freedom from consequences.
You need to look up the definition of an excuse.
A reason is literally an excuse.
If every time your parents offered you ice cream as a child, they beat the hell out of you, you’d soon start associating ice cream with with abuse. You’d expect it, as a matter of survival.
When you got older, someone offering you ice cream would trigger that fight or flight mechanism.
Mitigation is quite literally freedom from one consequence, in place of another.
Not by default, though i will say i phrased my reply poorly, what i should have said was.
They are similar, but the implications and potential usages of each are different.
A reason is an potential explanation for an action/outcome etc.
An excuse is an attempt to use a reason to mitigate some or all of the consequences of an action.
An excuse always has a reason as a basis, but not all reasons are excuses.
The main difference is intent,
As an example, two kids get in to a fight, kid a is asked “why were you fighting?”
They say “they hit me so i hit them back”.
That can be both a reason and an excuse depending on the intent of the speaker.
As a statement of subjective fact, that would be a reason.
As an attempt to dodge punishment or consequences, it would be an excuse.
It can also be both.
While potentially true, I’m not sure how it’s relevant.
That’s not what mitigation means either.