• Today@lemmy.world
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    2 days ago

    When someone is missing or is a possible threat, they give a description - white 35yo male - or whatever. I get having sex on ID info. I’m old and I’m confused by m/f and why the person needs to change instead of society changing? Can you still be what you medically are but wear, look, alter how you choose? How much is “i feel female” versus “i feel like what society expects female to be” ? I dunno- like I said, I’m old and confused.

    • Zaktor@sopuli.xyz
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      If they’re putting out a description, someone with an X market is probably better visually described as “gender non-conforming” than a gender they’re not really presenting as. They may even present as one gender for the flight and then another when out in public, so being described with one gender could actively disrupt visual identification.

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      I’m also old, and often confused, but less about this one, because of personal experience.

      The world is shifting quickly away from “almost everyone adheres to gender norms” to “what’s wrong with people being perceived the way they’d like to be?”

      It’s about individual expression of self. The bits and bobs that people have under their clothes may have zero correlation with what their traditionally recognized appearance is.

      If someone is lost or a threat, it makes more sense to look for them based on how they present themselves in public, and not how they look naked. (Which can be ambiguous, too.)

      Your recognizing your own confusion is a good thing. It means that you are aware that there are still things you need to learn. You’re all right.

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      I mean at that point it’s just philosophical. Is a woman an ideal for you to fit, or is it defined what the people do, how they act, and what they wear?