• hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    3 days ago

    “I want my partner to stop beating me daily, but I don’t want to leave them”

    They keep beating you as long as it’s profitable for them - and you keep it profitable

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      First of all, has your own experience with Windows been so traumatic that you actually feel it’s proper to compare it to spousal abuse of all goddamn things?

      Secondly, using emotionally manipulative false equivalences like that do nothing to further the argument, it just shuts it down by spreading feelings of guilt in the other partly.

      Thirdly, people are allowed to ask for more privacy without evangelists like you crawling out of the woodwork to guilt-trip them into making a change they may not be ready for.

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        It’s a little much to compare it to spousal abuse, but it’s honestly not far from the truth. As for asking for more privacy, you’re absolutely well within your right to ask for it, but it’s well within Microsoft’s right to say “fuck you I’ll spy as much as I want because you agreed to be spied upon when you agreed to our EULA that you probably didn’t actually read”.

        Microsoft windows is an advertising platform now and nothing more. Windows as a home operating system is a drop in the bucket for Microsoft, they want you spending money on subscriptions for O365, Xbox gamepass, and Azure Cloud. They want enterprise SQL licensing and azure cloud licensing, they couldn’t give fuck all about some butthurt dudebro who plays call of duty, they want copilot subscribers and to be the driving force behind LLMs and AI not Meta or OpenAI. Your privacy is the last thing Microsoft will ever care about, and if you don’t take the initiative and stop using that piece of shit intrusive OS, then idk what to tell you.

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        2 days ago

        First of all, has your own experience with Windows been so traumatic that you actually feel it’s proper to compare it to spousal abuse of all goddamn things?

        Secondly, using emotionally manipulative false equivalences like that do nothing to further the argument, it just shuts it down by spreading feelings of guilt in the other partly.

        Might not have been the best comparison as another commenter mentioned

        Thirdly, people are allowed to ask for more privacy without evangelists like you crawling out of the woodwork to guilt-trip them into making a change they may not be ready for.

        Sure, you can ask but you’re asking hammer to stop being a hammer. Modern Windows is not built to be private, but the opposite of it, it’s a marketing platform.

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      3 days ago

      You (and the upvoters) thought that this was a clever statement. But it actually was not. It was very disrespectful.

      Victims of abuse most often can’t “just leave”. It’s not always that simple. It just appears simple to people far outside of abuse, having neither experienced nor witnessed it. Or, the rare case, are victims of survivorship bias, because they were in the miniscule percentage of people successfully leaving abusive enviromnente AND be smug about it afterwards. As someone working with abuse victims, it’s really never a “then just leave!”

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          Wasn’t meant condescending or anything. You didn’t mean harm. It’s just that victims, who hear this attitude a lot (because it seems so bloody obviously easy), might be pissed. Same like “why are you even homeless? Just buy a house, doh!”

          • hemko@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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            2 days ago

            Yeah no offense taken. You explained well why there was a problem and it’s always a good thing