• Dyskolos@lemmy.zip
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    3 days ago

    You (and the upvoters) thought that this was a clever statement. But it actually was not. It was very disrespectful.

    Victims of abuse most often can’t “just leave”. It’s not always that simple. It just appears simple to people far outside of abuse, having neither experienced nor witnessed it. Or, the rare case, are victims of survivorship bias, because they were in the miniscule percentage of people successfully leaving abusive enviromnente AND be smug about it afterwards. As someone working with abuse victims, it’s really never a “then just leave!”

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        2 days ago

        Wasn’t meant condescending or anything. You didn’t mean harm. It’s just that victims, who hear this attitude a lot (because it seems so bloody obviously easy), might be pissed. Same like “why are you even homeless? Just buy a house, doh!”

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          Yeah no offense taken. You explained well why there was a problem and it’s always a good thing