This is life.

Ooo, hahaha! I gotcha! a) Thank you! I am black and white by nature, and I think at certain points we have to fight our nature and when it comes to interacting with other humans this for sure is something we can find compromise with. Also, having an opinion that never shifts of grows is pretty freakin’ rough. Oh, I just meant it was outta nowhere only on account of me just making a dumb joke =P! Thank you though =)

Set em, let em be known. Evaluate offenders: ignorance, disrespect, necessity? I think they can be “soft” which I guess is sort of against the idea. I think in life we need to be flexible though. I guess this is all to say - it’s good to know yourself and your needs. You are absolutely welcome to leave spaces that oppress you. Not all oppression spheres can be ignored, and instead must be handled. Not all boundary breakers are oppressive, sometimes things must be met regardless of feelings. Sometimes people break things because they forget (a simple example is dead-naming which I think can happen with people accidentally - it’s sort of an extreme example but it’s what came to mind). Sometimes you need to meet people half-way because that’s just life. You can find a way to honor other people’s boundaries while honoring your own. Thanks for asking, although it felt like it was sort of out of left field =P!

It’s good to have boundaries =)

That’s because it’s fucking amazing tho foreals =X!

Oh, you got it too!

Pulled a Saltburn =)

I think in general people’s attention spans wax and wane. I will say I think there’s a series of things you can do that can help put on a presentation, even if you’re “bad” at it. I think practice makes perfect. You don’t have to be a parrot, but you should be familiar with whatever you want to present. The Sims had it right when the little person talks in front of the mirror to be more charismatic. I mean, you don’t have to do that, but a kind person forgives a sea of “umms” and most people are not kind. I got some great advice a hundred years back to basically write your speech, hit it until it sounds natural, and then put it in an outline. Have cheater notes so to speak, where you can lead yourself conversationally. Use that, then when you have a handle of that knock it down to just bullet points. By that point you’ll pretty much own your presentation, which gives you an air of authority, which is the entire point of a presenter typically. It’s how I cheat the system, and I’ve given presentations on a large and small scale before (not often, but have done so in the past). I absolutely dreaded it at first and even dropped out of school because I didn’t want to take a speech class (no lie). The wonderful human mentioned above helped guide me to the finish line, and I am so terribly thankful for that. Time, talking to every kind of human under the sun made pretty much everything better. That’s why I said the last bit on the bottom.

I am not a quick person, I wish I were. Witty people kill me, because they’re so quick. It takes time for me to mull things over in my head, to respond. Even medicated, it’s just an uphill battle unfortunately. I can’t play the crowd, and I wish I could. Pretty much the only way I have learned to “cheat the system” is to approach situations where I need to be authoritative like above. But likewise you’ve gotta say the “right” things. By that I mean if you’re going to ask for audience participation, you’ve got to do so in a fun and succinct way. People don’t tend to like cringey introspective questions unless it’s done in a fun and stupid way. Of course this whole damn thing is cause of comic. I just always try to impart this knowledge I’ve gotten because most people will have to give a presentation at some point and this advice I got saved my life. So I try to keep the spirit alive by passing it on =)

I am going to check this out. If you are interested in a modern fantastic tower defense that (also) doesn’t break the mold check out Bella Wants Blood. It’s very cute, and I hear her say “STANNNLEEEYYY” whenever I think about it.

In my wildest dreams. I bet you when they made it edgey perhaps (I know for a period they made it edgey but I don’t know the specifics of it). I do like the idea that you can be real good gal friends without all the raucous sexual tension. Cause when I first came out (and being gay was as accepted as scratching yourself up with a brillo pad) gals were super dubious of my existence. As society became more accepting, I made a literal shitton of straight gal friends. To the point now where they are the majority of my inner circle. Not that I think either is particularly queer coded. Betty is just a tomboy and Veronica is just a flirtatious gal. Hahaha!

(God that sounded like I was joking at the end but I am just laughing because I really think it ends there, but things can change and I haven’t read this stuff since I was young so idk.)

This shows you why echo chambers of all designs are bad. It’s why I hate the down vote arrow, and wished that it disappeared off the face of this planet. People got frustrated when that happened with Youtube though, so shrugs. Please keep being a witty one =)

I want to get grumpy here and say that watching their edutainment documentary on ____ (fill in the blank queer subject because I don’t remember the focus), that introduced me to Christine Jorgensen and had clips of her performing made my LIFE! I think they were from the Library of Congress or something, and who the hell knows if they even exist anymore. She did a cover of Welcome to my World that took the tune from a old crooner song to this upbeat fun and flirty jam and it was absolutely mesmerizing. That was just a ten second clip too, but it was so wonderful. I had another grumpy pants moment tonight when I talked about how happy people are post-transitioning and how frustrating it is to me that people can see transjoy and think “I want to smash that.” I mean I have met so many transfolx who have this deep seated awful pain that pretty much saps the life from them until they get the right support they need. It’s like night and day. I just don’t get it. We don’t recruit, even though we used to chant it to scare the straights. Really, we just make people more aware of the possibilities of who they could be if they want to be said way. Youth explores, I’ve known a LUG or three in my lifetime. I think exposure to a wide range of folks in media helps people. I know I was happy the first time I saw someone who looked like me on a TV, and it damn near took 25 years or so to do it. So yeah, it’s important. I really hate this happened, but hopefully they’ve just archived them for later. You can’t fuck with the bag in this world.

You and me, we’re best friends now. You get Earthbound. I love you. It’s one of my favorite games forever-ever. Got it at Blockbuster used for $5. Best $5 spent ever. While I personally hate the skinnerbox effect of achievements, I love this damn game. I also love your excitement to play it again. Tell me your other favorites =)

Thank you for this, I haven’t seen one in a long time but I also don’t really go to comic shops or anything anymore. I used to when I was a baby geeklit. I love comics for what they are, I just don’t know if I connect with them in the same way I did as when I was younger. I think the need for financial gain has also altered the scene quite a bit, regardless of how talented people are. I think I was listening to an interview with Sophie Campbell one day and she said she doesn’t really read loosies anymore because their pacing always seems off. It’s kind of the same reason why I can’t stand Netflix shows, because it feels like they’re put together to create the largest amount of arousal and retention as plausible, while stringing an individual along (they’re also hella flashy, the camera changes every three seconds). Eh! I think there is a wholesome element of Better & Veronica (Or the Archie-universe as a whole) that is actually really needed when you’re younger/coming of age. Because everything feels so strange to you, and it’s nice to have something be simple, sweet an non-antagonistic.

I have seen people on here talk about how people creep on you from a young age if you’re perceived as desirable (I didn’t really want to point at any gender, but I know it happens a lot to gals). While I think people are more apt to talking about how unwanted advances of older individuals against young folks is bad, I actually think these things are still difficult subjects to approach. But I think a lot of media has subversive almost grooming like effects that can really subconsciously harm young minds. No one can really escape it, and equally there are elements of puberty that obviously make you sexual. But there’s also elements that make you almost asexual in nature. They two kind of butt up against each other. It’s a confusing space, and people tend to enjoy media as a pause from the confusions of life. So like I said, I am glad that these comics still exist. I am also glad they evolved, because they were written in a way that white-washed America (Leave it to Beaver) in way that people have worked to shift (Raisin in the Sun) to permit more equality in the country. For as much as people hate it (white supremacist) I think diversity is the spice of life, and in including it they found a way to reach a wider audience and stay afloat in a volatile market. If I come across one of these, I’ll grab one just to see how things have changed cause of you. Thank you =)!

p.s. - (I talk about the grooming stuff from my own experiences, but also from the stuff I’ve heard other folks say. On media, I clearly partake. I just think there are elements that are really harmful to people as a whole, let alone developing minds. There’s also some wonderful stuff though, that help expand the imagination or even educate individuals on good moral standards. So eh!)

I have a goofy secret, that I was never girly, girl about a lot of things. But the library I went to always had copies of Betty and Veronica laying around and I sure as hell read them all. I think it’s kind of funny you guys keep pulling all this bathing suit stuff up. Cause I think Veronica later wears a string bikini exclusively. But I can’t exactly remember, because that was years and years ago. I have always found the evolution of this property (which has lasted so long) has been interesting as societal views have changed. I don’t read it anymore, but I do know they added a gay character at one point and I saw some other stuff they changed too.

This is a goofabout but I swear a couple things here:

a) When presenting things, you have to be captivating by nature otherwise you will get this response in general.

b) I think we might have too much social stimulation as a whole, even extroverts, and it’s made everyone mad.

c) Hugs.

d) *SAD gets easier with more socializing (me thinks).

I didn’t see Betty hanging out on the bottom there and thought “That’s a sultry Betty.”

I have always felt this way Space Ghost, only catch is I think we might be in the minority =X!

I know someone who bemoans that mainstream individuals talk so much about transfolx because she wants to live a simple and quiet life and she feels when all eyes are pointed on transissues (love it or hate it) it makes her life more complicated. Also folks often think that all people of whatever outgroup they’re looking at is just like one monolithic thing. It’s why people who get into positions of authority are seen as the “spokespeople” for their group. I do think conversing is the bridge to building better relationships in most situations. I have sat down with a biggot or three and been fine because I found our middle ground, even though if I had my choices I wouldn’t even be sitting there with them. Cause fuck racists. Fuck homophobes, etc. But I try to see the human in folks, and humans are sloppy fucks.

I just also get that people are fatigued of having to demystify their humanity for others. By that I mean, I know a lot of black folk who are tired of trying to express that they’re humans to racist. They’re tired of trying to stand up for the entirety of their ethnicity just cause folks can’t get off their asses and educate themselves on why thinking people are below someone because the color of their skin (might) be different than their own. I also know there’s like…the right way and right people to talk to…er…other folks. By that I mean, I sure as fuck am a bag of wind and I might not be the right person to convey big ideas in short concise sentences. In this day and age, a lot of folks need big ideas turned into sound bites. They need space to mull things over. In my head, the best conversations are long drawn out back and forths. This isn’t really par the norm nowadays.

I got all ranty and dumb. Idk if any of what I said made any sense, I am about to zzz off. All things aside, another thing I heard was that a trans individual I know thinks that cis folk hate trans folk because they feel “tricked” by them. Idk. I will say that I wish we all lived in Shangri-La, and that folks were kinder to one another. I will also say that even with the term “bottom-surgery” it tends to be more of a transman type lingo as far as I know unless stuff changed (cause I know you can say giving head for gals or guys so idk). Shrugadugdug. You could find a way to make things more accessible to folks if you want. But equally, be safe if you do. Cause people out here target transfolx and they truly want them dead.

To keep the content from tumbling out? Apologies, I don’t totally get it, but I am trying to picture it here.