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Cake day: October 22nd, 2023

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  • People worry far too much about what others think of them and what mold they should fit into.

    Become proficient in one or more things so others find you interesting.

    No offense, cause I think your message is good overall, but you contradict yourself in the same paragraph.

    Trying to learn things so others will like you more isn’t a great way to do it. I know because I tried that. My self-love became conditional with that mindset, and there was always something else I could come up with I had to learn or change about myself before I could be lovable.

    My old therapist called me out on it. He said there’s nothing wrong with pushing yourself to improve, but if you don’t balance that with unconditional self love it will simply lead to depression.



















  • I think the reality is no one knows what will work, and that’s why it’s important to try things.

    It’s good to suggest new things too, but who are you addressing when you say maybe it’s time we figure out new things? I’m frustrated with the old ways too, but to do new things requires organizing and community building around a new idea. I don’t think it’s very constructive to hand wave at the internet and say “we should do something new” without any suggestion or effort to plan something.

    Organizing isn’t my skill set either, so I think it’s important to support what does come along even if it isn’t the ideal thing we’d like to see. Nitpicking every effort for not being perfect will drain energy out of the participants, and it’s good people are trying things. Just my 2 cents.