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Cake day: June 23rd, 2023

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  • I accidentally brought handcuffs into a flight on August 2001. The TSA agent who found them asked what I planned to do with them.

    Being a teenager, the answer was obviously that I kept them in my jacket to pull them out and show my high-school friends how quirky and cool I was. But being a teenager, I didn’t realize how endearing that response would be, so I blurted out the first thing that came to mind, which was somehow better and worse.

    “I’m visiting my girlfriend!”

    She gave me a slow blink and said “Well, alright then, go get your freak on!” (Or something of a similar sentiment - time has robbed me of the exact phasing.)





  • Not buy their products. Drag them on social media. Give interest to news stories about the product’s users, not the figurehead of one of the vendors, so the news media focuses on them rather than the distraction. Reach out to your politicians and your friends to discuss how product failures are the result of the company embracing AI and don’t forget to highlight the greed that brought us to this fascist economic system. Use, donate to, or even offer your skills to non-LLM FOSS alternatives. Spend your dollars on companies with scruples. Build your own home lab, give up on all technology, get really into self-sufficiency, and go live in the woods to escape the whole system.

    I don’t know… something other than giving in. Literally anything other than that.



  • Being treated only as a font of knowledge, a hard worker, a reliable friend (when the friendship is otherwise not rewarding), having a lot of tools, etc, is kind of crappy. I at least get pleasure from sex. Honestly, if I had my druthers of how folks reduce me, I wouldn’t hate being valued for being good in bed.

    I wonder if the friend with the truck ever feels like that.


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    19 days ago

    The pain aspect is something you should address. First with your partner if their technique can be changed, and second with a few doctors. This one is like a layer cake - maybe you’re ace, maybe there is emotional context (that could be entirely unrelated to your current situation) that causes physical discomfort, or possibly there’s a physical component that your doctor might be able to help you with. Or some combination of all of them, because people are complex.

    But romantic asexuality is definitely a thing, as is a number of variants within it.






  • In same camp of supporting the sentiment, I played this out in my head.

    Okay, but what if they’re open carrying a large gun?
    [Bad outcome]

    Okay, what if they open carry and have a body camera (that they turn off while in the restroom, obviously)?
    [Bad outcome and ignored by media - bad outcome]

    Okay, what if there’s a group that’s open carrying and have body cameras?
    [Bitch, did you just determine they had to form a militia to go to the bathroom away from home? Sigh.]

    I don’t know the solution, other than for people to mind their own fucking business.




  • Can openers is what did it for me.

    In 2015 I needed a new manual can opener. The local big-box stores had two basic styles. A cheap, all metal one that was just stamped from a single sheet, and a more expensive one with better handles.
    The more expensive one had previously rusted and began to look nasty within a few years.
    Amazon had a bunch of different styles at less than the price point of the more expensive one.

    I bought one. It was fine. I didn’t love the operation. It cut the whole top off from the side, rather than from the top in a downwards cut. The sharp edges were on the can rather than on the lid. It would catch the paper labels and sometimes wad them up into the can while you cut. Cans with no air space would leak when opened.

    Anyway. Replaced it in 2019. Amazon still had a broad selection, but all except for obvious crap was as expensive as the local big box store’s expensive option. Wound up going to a smaller local(ish) bulk foods store and bought a cheapo restaurant one for less than Amazon’s/the big box store’s similar offerings. Minimal rusting to date.


  • A long time ago, someone said something really useful to me about oversharing online:
    “I would like to fuck you, but I’m afraid you’ll write about it on your LiveJournal.”

    And on that day, I became a lot more selective about what I shared online. At least when it relates to others. I’ll tell you all about my childhood trauma.