• nutsack@lemmy.world
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    it would work better if it was "women swipe first’. men can look at and swipe the women who swiped them already. this solves two problems:

    1. women are not seen by anyone they don’t want to be
    2. men don’t need to spend hours swiping hundreds of women

    please give me 1 million dollars

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      10 hours ago

      That’s the premium feature in pretty much every dating app. You get to see who likes you but you have to pay the money to find out if anyone swiped on you at all.

      They imply that lots of people swiped on you but you don’t actually know until after you’ve given the money.

      So basically your plan is to just remove the con part which I’m all in favor of.

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      Facebook dating kinda has this where you get notified if someone likes you Ironically it works better than any other dating app. The whole swipe til you both match deal is just to keep people paying and using the app for longer

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        1 day ago

        it means men would not spend hours on the app, which means nobody would ever do this

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          Who wants men spending hours on the app and why? Most of these are subscription-based, not ad-supported.

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            Sure, but you’ve got to build that habit of checking the app. Gotta lure people back for more little hits of dopamine. The men aren’t going to subscribe (or at least stay subscribed) if they aren’t getting that illusion of lots of options for people to date.

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              No, it’s the goal of apps that want to serve as many advertisements as humanly possible. Most dating apps don’t have any way to monetize your attention.

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          Exactly, Im 50 and Im not rich or particularly good looking. If I was straight I might only see 5 or 6 women on the app that would match with me to begin with and if those didn’t become anything I’d be done with that app. It can’t work

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            Would you rather see 5 or 6 women that all expressed interest in you or a thousand women who have never and probably will never even see you? Open the app, swipe 5 or 6 times, move on with your life.

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                Exceptthe company that makes the app needs you to keep dating to make money. If ypu have 5 options and they don’t pan out you are done with that app.

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              As someone who has spent a stupid amount of time browsing Tinder for shits & giggles, I’m not sure I wouldn’t want that. But then again I’m gay and things work way differently for us. If I swipe right, it’s very likely we match and then have a boring convo that goes nowhere. Maybe I suck at it but I never have any luck despite everything.

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                You’re gonna have a boring convo on a chat app with a random stranger. You’re both interested in each other, just ask to meet up. Do something interesting together and the conversation will flow naturally.

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            i am the most attractive sexy man in my entire giant city of 23 million people but i still have to swipe 50 girls to get 1 match and i might not even be that interested in her. better to meet girls in real life and follow them around on the tube and insert myself into their personal space 🚀

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        Yes, that’s the idea. They wouldn’t see anyone who hasn’t already liked them.

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            They’re not “exhausting options”. They’re just only seeing the options that are actually available, rather than an endless stream of those that aren’t.

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                  If I see five options and then date those five and it goes nowhere if there aren’t new potential matches presented regardless of suitability the user will go to a different app where they are given the illusion of more choice.

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                    You think people will be happier to swipe endlessly for hours with extremely limited success than to open their app, look at 5 profiles and instantly find a match?