• MindTraveller@lemmy.ca
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    5 months ago

    Yes. Relationships are built on trust. If you won’t trust your partner, you’re not being a good partner to them.

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      5 months ago

      so is a person with trust issues who really struggled supposed to just go and die alone?

      this is just victim blaming

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        5 months ago

        They’re supposed to date someone who can take it, if they need to date. But dating someone who can’t handle it is abuse.

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          5 months ago

          “if they need to date” bruh

          then the person who “can’t take it” has the responsibility of communicating it. Simply existing and having issues next to someone else is not fucking abuse. Why are you using that word so lightly

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            5 months ago

            Because I’ve been abused by people who were like this. It escalated. I had PTSD so bad I couldn’t work a full time job.

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              5 months ago

              I’m sorry but you saying that you were abused by someone’s trust issues sounds like you expected full devotion and full trust out of your partner which does not convince me to believe you were the victim there.