Ok but I think making that joke using someone else’s minority status is pig behavior. But I was a teenager in the 90s when someone else thinking you’re gay could get you an ass-beating or get you fired from your job or worse (Matthew Shepard). Being an ally to lgbt folks in a lot of ways meant keeping your mouth shut way more than it meant speaking out. Maybe it’s different nowadays.
It is a lot different nowadays. Generally speaking yes, it’s still considered a dick move to just out someone before they’re ready. But that’s not what this is. In this case it’s less about the “Being Gay” as it is about Grindr generally being something these conservative family members are doing behind their wives’ backs while also being openly homophobic.
Ok but I think making that joke using someone else’s minority status is pig behavior. But I was a teenager in the 90s when someone else thinking you’re gay could get you an ass-beating or get you fired from your job or worse (Matthew Shepard). Being an ally to lgbt folks in a lot of ways meant keeping your mouth shut way more than it meant speaking out. Maybe it’s different nowadays.
It is a lot different nowadays. Generally speaking yes, it’s still considered a dick move to just out someone before they’re ready. But that’s not what this is. In this case it’s less about the “Being Gay” as it is about Grindr generally being something these conservative family members are doing behind their wives’ backs while also being openly homophobic.