You know what would have been really unexpected, is if I went on Lemmy and said “explaining jokes is boring and lame” and multiple people didn’t run up and write paragraphs at me.
And look, I’m not saying we’re all autistic here, but we have a brand. I know it wasn’t going to be a great chat, but maybe don’t ask strangers to patronise and respect you.
Hot take: allism is a social disability and right here we have a perfect example of an allistic person complaining that they don’t want a joke to be explained because their allism doesn’t like clear communication. Allistic people feel an innate need to obfuscate communication because their brains need the exercise of deciphering hidden codes in everything.
Are you angry on your own behalf or on the other person’s? That is to say, are you angry that the explanation that helps someone else appreciate the joke will lessen your own appreciation? Or are you worried they won’t appreciate the joke they don’t understand after they understand it?
Up until recent comments, my emotions were mild irritation leavened with my own brand of slightly caustic humour. That clearly hasn’t worked out, and so I am reverting to a more neutral tone. No more jokes, just information.
My view on the matter has purely been a matter of taste, and different people have been trying to make it a matter of ableism. Other people have different preferences and tastes. I like jokes to be funny, and explaining them makes them suck in my opinion. I think that’s pretty self-explanatory, and I’ve done my best to be clear on this point.
You’ve been ascribing various untrue feelings, attitudes, and conditions to me in search of a way to litigate your own preferences. That is an unpleasant way to be treated. I’ve tried my best to be funny, and then civil, and my warning now is that we’re nearing the end of civility.
You know what would have been really unexpected, is if I went on Lemmy and said “explaining jokes is boring and lame” and multiple people didn’t run up and write paragraphs at me.
And look, I’m not saying we’re all autistic here, but we have a brand. I know it wasn’t going to be a great chat, but maybe don’t ask strangers to patronise and respect you.
Hot take: allism is a social disability and right here we have a perfect example of an allistic person complaining that they don’t want a joke to be explained because their allism doesn’t like clear communication. Allistic people feel an innate need to obfuscate communication because their brains need the exercise of deciphering hidden codes in everything.
The example would be more perfect if I was allistic, but it’s very tidy otherwise.
Oh, so your joke about us all being autistic was just internalised prejudice, got it
That or actually processing my emotions with humour rather than externalising that anger by playing the victim, either orther.
Why does other people asking to understand a joke make you angry?
I already said right at the top - explained jokes aren’t as funny. De gustibus nil disputandem.
Perhaps a little disputandem though, in my experience…
Are you angry on your own behalf or on the other person’s? That is to say, are you angry that the explanation that helps someone else appreciate the joke will lessen your own appreciation? Or are you worried they won’t appreciate the joke they don’t understand after they understand it?
Up until recent comments, my emotions were mild irritation leavened with my own brand of slightly caustic humour. That clearly hasn’t worked out, and so I am reverting to a more neutral tone. No more jokes, just information.
My view on the matter has purely been a matter of taste, and different people have been trying to make it a matter of ableism. Other people have different preferences and tastes. I like jokes to be funny, and explaining them makes them suck in my opinion. I think that’s pretty self-explanatory, and I’ve done my best to be clear on this point.
You’ve been ascribing various untrue feelings, attitudes, and conditions to me in search of a way to litigate your own preferences. That is an unpleasant way to be treated. I’ve tried my best to be funny, and then civil, and my warning now is that we’re nearing the end of civility.