then she phones other people to say I’m awful and won’t help her
she refuses to accept she is old and has had hip and knee operations, she’s 86, she won’t stop driving, she won’t use her cane, she won’t get rails or ramps put in her house, and she won’t let me, or anyone else help or do things
I understand pride and am sensitive but when she is actively mean and lies about me, and she has done it for decades, then I kinda don’t care anymore
I suppose what I’m saying is that even in old age and being infirm personality is a big factor on outcome
my MIL would rather die than accept my help,
then she phones other people to say I’m awful and won’t help her
she refuses to accept she is old and has had hip and knee operations, she’s 86, she won’t stop driving, she won’t use her cane, she won’t get rails or ramps put in her house, and she won’t let me, or anyone else help or do things
I understand pride and am sensitive but when she is actively mean and lies about me, and she has done it for decades, then I kinda don’t care anymore
I suppose what I’m saying is that even in old age and being infirm personality is a big factor on outcome