• Cyrus Draegur@lemmy.zip
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    2 days ago

    We’re finally approaching some twisted semblance of equality via men becoming afraid of women in return ._.

    Men who took the lesson to heart:
    Ladies don’t want to talk to you.
    They don’t want you to approach them.
    They don’t want you to initiate social interaction.
    Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.

    Instead of teaching them to act in less obnoxious ways, society taught them to act less–period.

    And so, I now see unironic posts showing up on social media of women asking each other (paraphrased),
    “Why don’t men ever talk to me anymore?”
    “Why don’t men ever approach me anymore?”
    “Even when I see men in public, they never even acknowledge me. Why are they ignoring me? What is going on?”

    A lot of folks heard the pleas of women wishing men would just leave them alone. And a fair proportion of the men acquiesced.

    I mean, yeah, SOME didn’t, and became even more obnoxious, but the chronically unfuckable bootlicking simps of the fascist grift are more miserable now than they’ve ever been; The few that “seem” “successful” are just poster children of survivorship bias, pied pipers leading the naive and highly suggestible to self-inflicted ruin.

    I have divested myself of this bizarre tragedy of errors. Humans are humans. I treat humans like humans. If other people project weird freaky intentions upon me while I’m JUST trying to mind my own gods damned business existing within line of sight and vague proximity, that’s THEIR skill issue. AT LEAST nonbinary asexual persons never get weird at me like the ones vested in all the maladaptive notions and festooned in toxic stereotypes… and it’s refreshing. Good riddance to all the outdated reproductive caste dynamics. Good riddance to the gilded cage of having to drag-perform whatever the fuck I was assigned at birth.

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      16 hours ago

      I’ve seen a lot of posts, articles etc with women making those exact complaints, and I always find them rather sad.

      It’s been made very clear that the majority of women don’t want to be approached most of the time, especially by someone they don’t know, and that’s fair enough. You need to accept that you’re the outlier.

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      The bitterly ironic part is that the men who took that to heart are the GOOD men, you know those that actually respect women and their wishes.

      The asshole men, don’t give a shit and keep wearing red hats and calling women FEMALES.

      The whole movement has backfired hard and made it harder for women to find nice guys 😐

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      Ladies don’t want to talk to you. They don’t want you to approach them. They don’t want you to initiate social interaction. Men need to be less visible, less audible, overall less perceptible, because this coincides with them being less obnoxious.

      And that is correct. This is how you manage to appear less obnoxious and threatening as a man. This is how you seperate yourself from the predators and machos. It also helps men avoiding problematic women as well. It’s a win-win.

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          Give women space and limit yourself to reactions if they approach you. Always assume they’re not interested. Do not approach them, that’s predatory behavior.

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              Just avoid behavior that is associated with predatory types. Imagine a spectrum with one extreme being “I couldn’t care less” and the other being “I’m going to chase you”. Choose the center. Civil and slightly friendly but not let’s-be-friends friendly. Like a coworker you don’t know and who works in a different department but you see each other sometimes. Be friendly enough to not make things awkward if you meet again. The rest is up to the woman.

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                Tbh I’ll prob just stick with my tried and true awkward white guy smile-nod. There’s people that have been working in shipping for months I’ve never even spoken to (oddly though they’re all guys, the women talk a lot and they’re mostly funny.)

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        Here’s the thing, you man-hater. Men are considered sub-humans just for existing

        UPDATE: Yup people love misandry. Until it affects them personally

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          Okay I’m gonna pop off a hot take that I have no intention of defending but it has raised interesting conversation in the past:

          Yes, men are in fact inferior, and I say this not because I particularly like it, but because the way masculinity manifests in mammals is through the y chromosome acting not like a legitimate whole instruction set in itself, but rather more like a “patch” or, to put it in colloquial terms, “DLC”: DownLoadable Content does not work without the base game, and the y-chromosome cannot function without an x-chromosome.

          An egg is fertilized XY and the Y is completely non-functional? Congratulations: this clump of cells will develop into a sapient individual whom is intersex but appears entirely feminine.

          An egg is fertilized XY and the X is completely non-functional? This clump of cells will never develop into a person. At most it will be ejected as a miscarriage.

          Male mammals are derivative knockoffs of the default (female) template that exist to perform dangerous functions that enhance the survivability of a population at large at the expense of individual survival and prosperity. They are hormonally predisposed to aggressively occupy, hold, and defend territory, and get killed sacrificially in conflict while the rest of the specimen’s family group can either hide or escape to continue the gene line without them.

          And again - I’m describing it like this NOT because I particularly like it or agree with it or think it’s ideal! It kinda sucks actually. But accepting this has helped me to better recognize the pitfalls of nature and step around them. I can’t even begin to list all the many BRUH MOMENTS I’ve avoided by realizing internally, “wait a darn minute, is this… DUDE BEHAVIOR? Eew! I don’t need this conflict! I’m being argumentative for stupid illogical hormone-driven reasons, so I’m going to stop now, reassess the counter arguments because they might have been right all along, and maybe apologize before I end up going to prison for stabbing someone over a stupid verbal disagreement.”

          I invite any and all to wipe the floor with me using facts and evidence though, and maybe I’ll learn some cool stuff along the way. But this is the hypothesis I’ve been running with just fine for years.

          Also, fun fact, birds are kind of the opposite! They have ZZ and ZW hormones where the feminine reproductive caste is the changing variable!