Bad news for me, I use youtube a lot with an adblocker and it’s essentially ad-free. It’s going to be a bad day for me when they start cracking down. It doesn’t surprise me, but it’s a bummer.

The wording on those applications would definitely raise a flag for me. They totally sound bot generated.

I’ve joined a number of instances looking for the best performer, hops, pings, server response. That’s what I’ve been saying in my applications. Interestingly, my first sign-up was on Beehaw before I knew what I doing and they are the only ones that rejected me, about a week after I applied. Made me think, what did I say that was so awful? No biggie I already had some good instances to sign into.

That’s pretty significant. Petition them to come here.

That’s a good indicator when you find your instance blocked by a lot of other instances. I think the lesson is don’t leave low hanging fruit out there.

It actually amazes me there’s people out there doing these bot infestations. I mean there is some effort involved. Why go to all the trouble, what’s the payoff? And how are they able to find new unadvertised instances so quickly.

Man I have the in-laws from hell so I know what you’re dealing with. Same problem, when they visit it’s like non-stop activities and I don’t want to spend the whole time with them. They’re like supercharged tourists.

Fortunately my wife feels the same way and doesn’t force me to participate in every activity. But if I didn’t participate in some then like you say, I’d look like an asshole. My wife does what she can to give me space so it’s tolerable. I do dread when they come to visit though. It’s the polar opposite with my own relatives, we can lounge around and talk for hours in a relaxed way, it’s very easy going.

I rely on my wife to provide some insulation, maybe that’s something you could ask of your wife. If my wife didn’t do that for me I don’t know if I could tolerate the in-laws coming to camp out for several days at a time.

You’d need a way to cluster the instance and the software doesn’t provide that. You’d have to use some kind of 3rd party solution which would be more expensive than simply upgrading your server. Better to just co-op people into a server upgrade.

I have some duplicate communities as well. It would be handy to be able to group them, but at this point comments just show up on my subscribed front page with the rest of my subscribed communities. It’s transparent there, but when you go to a particular community, you can only look at duplicates individually.