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The specific distro doesn’t really matter. What matters is package choice (being able to do the few things you listed with the apps you would like to use). I guess if you’re among the Debian evangelists you probably value stability more than any other consideration. Just pick some server distro or Debian again.

Setting up an app in docker is the easiest option, even more than just simply installing the binary?

This isn’t new. I’ve been running my personal instance since last year using it.

Big deal, just self host in a VPS if you’re willing to pay $$$.

Don’t make the mistake though of self hosting (Dendrite) as it will just choke, in my case it was a single user instance subscribed to only a handful of channels but apparently that was too much for my server to load messages in any manner that would be considered quick.

I’ve self hosted several services at once on there but apparently Matrix is just too heavy too handle compared to other things.

This is so sad. To be computer illiterate is like being reading illiterate back in the 1800s. Sadly I recognise all the truth in this post and I’m going to have to put up with this kind of thing a lot as I’m moving into an IT help desk role… (FML?).