yeah, that’s understandable. i’d never thought about it that way before.
personally i use enby as a way to say that i am in the middle / don’t really care.
i think the issue comes from the fact that saying non-binary means specifically non-{man,woman}. whereas i’ve always interpreted it as just non-“specific gender”.
to me it’s the etc. of gender labels, but i realise that not everyone that i think it describes would want to identify with it.
(and that means it becomes it’s own label, and now we have to figure out what to call everyone_else
all over again. (maybe the whole idea of gender labels was rigged from the start))
and then you start nesting trees so deep that it’s hard to distinguish between the different levels D: