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Bisexuals aren’t exclusively attracted to men and women, nonbinary and agender folks are largely included. Common interpretation of the bi=2 prefex is including 1) same- (homo) and 2) different- (hetero) gender sexuality. Colloquially the difference between bi and pan is usually described as bisexuality allowing for preference for certain genders but not exclusively so, while pansexuality is attraction regardless of gender. A given bisexual might be attracted to twice as many women as men, but that doesn’t mean their attraction to those men isn’t real, you know? Meanwhile a pansexual could have attraction to the exact same people but wouldn’t ascribe it to gender, just individuals. Largely the difference between the two is therefore personal preference in how someone experiences their sexuality.

Maybe if it gets popular you can implement categories of some sort? So people who don’t want to opine on certain topics can tap out before getting those questions

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This is really really significant, especially with the other news of arresting Judge Hannah Dugan for opposing an ICE kidnapping in her courtroom. The legal system is forcing them to at least slow their destructive policy implementation and they don’t like that.

Every new step is testing the waters of what the people will accept. They’ve already backtracked on things that were sufficiently unpopular. We need to push back hard, now. Call your reps, get in the streets, say Judge Hannah Dugan’s name.

It is a useful reminder that people with autism are in danger with this regime in power. And anyone who needs vaccinations (everyone).

AI trash

Look up v-coding if you want your day ruined. This is an act of violence.

This post is less than half an hour old, can you let people see it first before complaining of silence?

Shoulda made the alias instead it sounds like!

It shows up as “Gulf of Mexico (Gulf of America)” outside of the US apparently. That seems like enough to make a fuss to me; bodies of international water have specific rules around name changes and the US can’t unilaterally decide differently.

On your last point, I’m surprised that Musk isn’t more visibly worried about assassination attempts. He’s really not making friends with anyone in government or otherwise, and the one guy backing him is a bad mood away from testing his full immunity powers and seizing several billions for himself. Like, if I had that kind of fuck off money, I sure wouldn’t be putting my neck on the line for this.

She could be seeking legal counsel, and their first rule is usually “shut the fuck up” until they get their ducks in a row.

SCOTUS seemed to not like a lot of Biden’s EOs though, I wonder why that could be…

I definitely would consider currying favor with the incoming administration a potential gain, which is why even if this is truly a technical error, so many people would believe otherwise considering the messaging from Meta these past few weeks. Regardless of intentions, Meta has failed in their user experience at a time when many people are evaluating if these platforms are worth the trouble- purely as a tech business that seems like quite the misstep. Of course, the truth is that it doesn’t matter, we already know Meta is bowing to right wing pressure and actively choosing to allow harm to LGBTQ+, women, and other minorities on their platforms, and they shouldn’t get plausible deniability for their mistakes.

I have heard from at least one person who deliberately unfollowed before Monday who suddenly was following again after the changeover. Maybe there’s technical difficulties there, but it’s a bad look for sure.

I think more folks need to understand that “hey I didn’t like that joke” or “hey I know you didn’t mean it that way but that hurt me” as inherently being shamed by someone, or even shameful at all. People are messy! We’re going to step on each other’s toes even when we’re doing our best. I think OP did an absolutely perfect job of saying, oh, you’re correct, that wasn’t my intention, let me make sure that’s clear to everyone right away. And then no one has to make any fuss about it from there. At the end of the day, your feelings about being gently corrected are yours to deal with, not the responsibility of the person or people correcting you.

And to be clear, I know this is difficult! It’s emotional labor you have to do. If you want to reframe your feeling of shame as something else (I like gratitude personally, like my friend has told me I have something in my teeth and I should fix that before I talk more), that can be useful.

Ultimately, trans people and other minorities don’t owe you gentleness when they’re hurt. It helps to be nice and low expectations like I have tried to be here, but that is a privileged position. It isn’t easy to hear someone lash out at you in pain and say “thank you for sharing this with me, I will reflect on it” but I’m telling you, it is worth it. Listening to other people is so important to protect minorities in any majority-ruled democracy.

And like I said, no one has to do this. But this is the process by which you can take casual allies of circumstance and make them trusted friends. And I think we all need more trusted friends nowadays.

I don’t put much stock in post votes, but I don’t think a majority popular comment that the person I was replying to already agreed with is, uh, getting blowback. Honestly you seem to be the most hostile one here. If you’d read any of the lovely conversations I’ve already had with folks here, you’d understand that I haven’t blamed anyone for this joke, I am simply communicating what I have heard in the community, and I don’t have any expectations of changes in behavior as a result of this.

It’s not bigotry to call out jokes on the internet, btw. For someone fighting a war on behalf of us all I’d figure this would be lower priority!

I’m going to stop responding to you since you don’t seem to be engaging with the intention to actually listen to minorities, ciao!

Are you able to do that while not alienating people who share your views perhaps?

Are you?

I am going to stand by my position that misgendering isn’t cool, thanks