Save up. Save save save.
Moving is expensive, and any new job is risky to start. The places you’re looking at are expensive because most sane people want to live there.
If you can find a remote job, start there: once you’re a remote worker, you can establish yourself at the job before you move. Once you’re confident that you like the job and aren’t going to get laid off out of nowhere, you won’t have to stress about paying rent while looking for a job in a new place.
Visit a city before committing, make sure it has the vibe you want. Coastal cities all have their upsides and downsides.
Wiping your ass with silk is still significantly more friction than water