My opinion is that apple makes some very nice products and they tend to work together well, since they control all the hardware and software. However, their products are overpriced and I can get similar performance at half the cost from other vendors.
I’m not arguing that any of your complaints are invalid. I just want to say that I use jellyfin to organize my movies and TV shows and access them from other computers on my home network. It works, is easy, was free. I like it.