Badabinski

shit got fucked

I know someone with an issue kinda like this. Some childhood trauma and neglect lead to her forming limerant relationships and made it difficult for her to be platonically friendly with men that she viewed as eligible. Her fix was doing evidence-based therapies like EMDR and healing her fear of being alone/unsupported/unloved. It took her a while, but she’s much better at having platonic friendships with men now.

I’m in one of those places. In Utah, many crosswalk lights won’t turn on at all unless you press the button, and the button can completely change the light timing and ordering (e.g. a protected left turn light activates at the end of a cycle instead of at the beginning).

Traffic engineers here are sometimes allowed to do some fairly interesting things.

Your last sentence is like garnish on a beautiful dinner.

Yeah, Mullvad seems to have done the most to prove that they’re not harvesting your data. You still have to trust them, but there’s evidence that they’re trying.

Yep. I personally hate debating semantics with people online and have had decent luck in the past by replacing “wrong” with stuff like “it prevents me from being happy” so that people skimming don’t latch onto “wrong” out of context and assume it is a value judgement. It appears that didn’t work in this thread, however. When I think about it I find the necessity of that replacement to be pretty annoying.

It’s frustrating and tiring for me to see how hard it is for people to understand their own privilege. Like, it took me waaaay too long to see my own privilege, and seeing it required a very patient person to lay out parallel life situations where something went well for me and terribly for them. At this point, I don’t begrudge people for struggling to understand the multiplicity of human existence (because who the fuck does), but it does drive me bugfuck nuts when that lack of comprehension leads to people saying that living a life like my pre-medicated hellscape is better than the relative stability I have now. Ign

All that besides, thanks for your comments. They’ve been quite validating and reading them has helped me to feel a bit better about all of this. Hopefully I’ll be able to stop perseverating on this thread and get back to my life.

It’s frustrating because all these folks need to do is just use the word “I” rather than “you” or “we” when talking about their mental state. Like, let me rewrite the comment that made me so mad:

As someone who also has depression and ADHD. There is nothing wrong with me. It’s OK for me to take medication to survive in an environment that’s actively hostile to me, but it’s also OK for me to acknowledge that if our society actually valued people I could live the way I need with the community support I need and I likely wouldn’t need to be medicated any more. It’s like covid, catching covid doesn’t mean there’s Something wrong with me. It means our society isn’t structured in a way to prevent people from getting sick (masks, vaccines, etc) and values profits more than people’s wellbeing.

They’d probably go on to say “this is how I feel about it. I don’t know if you’ve considered this, but having this mindset has been hugely helpful for my life” and then I’d say “oh yeah I have thought about it and that just doesn’t work for me” and we’d be on our merry way. To me, that is not invalidating or invasive or presumptive or whatever. I might feel a little irritated, but lots of things do that and it’s fine. Regardless of whether or not I agree with the axioms this comment is built on top of, I can respect that it is someone opening a small window into their mental state. Like, shit, who the fuck am I to tell this person that they’d need meds if they lived in a better world? I’m just some dunce on the Internet who isn’t going to lecture someone on what their lived experience is like.

I just wish that folks would realize that other people have different experiences and requirements for happiness and health, and that not meeting those requirements/having those requirements met is, as I understand it, one of the definitions of trauma. Having to live my life unmedicated was traumatic because my brain does not work in a way that is conducive to happiness. Please don’t try to tell me otherwise.

Those magic wands are great for men as well. Hitachi created a truly magical people pleaser.

Like, it kinda is aimed at people like me though? I’ve talked with my therapist about how fucked up the state of the world is over the decade or so I’ve been working with them. I had a psychiatrist try to increase my antidepressant dosage when I was struggling through some really terrible EMDR therapy (dealing with childhood trauma caused by how shitty our society is) because they thought it would make my life more bearable, which is exactly the meme. I pushed back on that because I knew what was causing that specific misery and I was solving it with therapy, not psychiatry. I don’t engage with my psychiatrists like they’re therapists, but I have otherwise been in this picture. Psychiatrists treat problems with pills, and sometimes they try to fix things that aren’t best addressed with medication.

I’ve also spent my life being told that I was stupid, weak, incompetent, or lazy because no matter what else is going on with my life, I have baseline physiological issues that prevent my brain from functioning. I am far from alone in this. I would have had a better life if my condition had been treated as soon as it was noticed. The stigma surrounding psychiatric medicine meant that I wasn’t and I suffered as a result. This post perpetuates the stigma that caused my suffering so I do not like it and will say something about it.

rsync -avr --progress in termux or a file explorer app built on top of scp or rsync. It doesn’t work like your use-case, but I’ve been happy with it.

Right or wrong doesn’t factor for me. I do not make value judgements about my neurochemistry, I just care about how well I am able to exist. I do not believe I’d live a happy life if I was unmedicated, regardless of our society. You are free to believe that about yourself, but I know what my untreated depression feels like—an absolutely crushing nothingness where I starve myself because I’m too apathetic to eat. I know what my untreated ADHD feels like—a bottomless pit of unmotivation and a maddening lack of emotional mindfulness. In my opinion, there is nothing wrong or shameful with having a medical condition that requires medication to treat. People with physical conditions shouldn’t be told that they’d be fine if society just accepted them when the consequences of not treating their condition is misery or death. I have a physical condition that affects my neurochemistry to a degree that prevents me from being happy and living. Some people have depression and can deal with it by making concessions or exercising or meditating and I’m happy for them. Therapy helped me a lot with my depression, but the baseline miserable nothingness is still there. Some people have ADHD but have found coping strategies and don’t need meds, and I’m happy for them. The D in ADHD is too strong for me to deal with on my own in any conceivable circumstance, and that is fine. There’s nothing wrong or shameful about that, it is what it is, like how someone with a congenital issue might need a wheelchair. I am entitled to my own understanding of myself, the shit I’ve suffered through, and how I deal with it.

I absolutely agree that our society treats neurodiverse people like shit. I agree that we’re generally lonely and don’t support each other well. Nothing wrong at all with that premise. I categorically disagree with your statement that we “likely wouldn’t need to be medicated anymore” if things were to change. I am either not a part of your “we,” or you are attempting to invalidate the decades I’ve spent coming to grips with what I need to survive.

EDIT: I don’t like being this hostile, but as I said, I am very fucking touchy about this topic. I’ve had enough of people assuming they know how my head works.

No.

Do not assume you understand my mental state. You can be a “hunter in a society of farmers.” I’ll just continue being a person with an imbalanced neurochemistry that I use medication to balance. I just want be able to get out of bed on a Saturday and do things I love.

My life has been filled with enough invalidation and unsolicited “advice” about my mental health, so I’m a little fucking touchy about this shit sometimes.

yeah fuck this, my soul crushing depression and ADHD are largely independent of my environment. I get that this is true for some people, but posts like these make me angry.

I swear I’ve seen people use bump keys on high quality tubular locks before.

Sounds like you may want to use a union filesystem like overlayfs. I’m not sure if the specific behavior of overlayfs will work for you, but it’s worth investigating.

Thank you for putting your use-case in your post, since otherwise I think this might be an XY problem.

EDIT: There’s also mergefs and unionfs. I don’t know what the features and drawbacks are for these three union filesystems. mergefs seems like it might be the most configurable, but it’s also FUSE. unionfs and overlayfs are both in-kernel, so they’ll perform better (which may not matter for your use-case). overlayfs is the one I’m most familiar with of those two, since it’s used by most container runtimes.

Moss Landing uses NMC batteries instead of LiFePO4. NMC lithium batteries are more energy dense (they’re often used in long range EVs), but they can also produce hydrogen and can autoignite if they go into thermal runaway. LiFePO4 batteries cannot autoignite and can’t produce hydrogen. They last longer, and the reduced density is worth it for the safety benefits, which is why more recent grid storage setups use them and not NMC. A BESS using the right chemistry could not have gone up in flames like this.

Part fart? Parting farting?

In this case, there were 5 shooters. One of them had a cartridge loaded with a wax bullet, so 4 of them had live rounds.

Oof, I didn’t know that about firejail. I’d heard of it, but I’d never used it. Like, c’mon folks! If you need privilege escalation, either require launching as root (if appropriate), or delegate the responsibility to a small, well-audited tool designed explicitly for the purpose and spawn a new privileged pid. Don’t use SUID. You will fuck it up. If you reach the point where setuid is your only option, then you’ve hopefully learned enough to rearchitect to not need it, or to give up, or use it if you’re, say, someone who maintains a libc or something.

EDIT: this is overly dramatic, but also it’s not. I personally feel like using SUID is kinda like rolling your own crypto in terms of required competence.

Ooooh, I love that idea. That would be the perfect play, and the best part is that everyone (except for the people being exploitative shits) would benefit. Personally, I’d love it if Canada started jailbreaking cars, because then I’d be okay with getting an EV. I want a (used) BEV, but I don’t want all of the spyware bullshit that new cars come with. I’d be overjoyed if I could spend $500-1000 to permanently enable all subscription features and rip out all of the data collection. I have never gone to a dealership for servicing (better to support independent local mechanics), so I wouldn’t give a fuck about losing any sort of warranty. Bonus points if the jailbreak is FLOSS.

Here’s to hoping some Canadian parliamentarian reads that article and agrees.