Wait, where are you? I thought I recognised you from .ca, but it sounds like you might be thinking of the US system where they can pay nothing except tips. In my province you earn at least minimum wage as a waiter, and tips.
If I were to just straight up refuse to eat from restaurants under any circumstance, I’d be heavily incurring those intangible costs I mentioned, because it’s an expected social thing. That being said, I might consider it if I was in the US, but I’m not.
Also, tips have expanded well beyond servers, but that’s kind of beside the point.
Well you thought wrong. I was born and raised in the U.S. and lived there until about two weeks ago when we fled.
And in my 47 years in America, I was never in a situation where I couldn’t say, “no thanks” if someone invited me to a restaurant. And who invites you to restaurants and makes you pay?
Like, most people. Unless they offer, it’s not culturally expected to be a gift. “No, I won’t discuss this over coffee”/“no, we can’t have the meeting at a restaurant” would go over like a wet fart, and explaining that it’s because of minimum wage workers wouldn’t make it much better. (FWIW I’m also poor enough that’s a pretty big expense, but middle and upper class people hate being reminded people like me exist)
Congratulations on getting out. Best of luck wherever you are now.
And why would they tell me, a relative stranger who, while actually local, seems kinda like a dirty city liberal? Or worse, they know who I am and that I’m weird.
You seem to be making a ton of assumptions about what my local environment is like, how much time I have, how good my Lemming social skills are, and how much importance I would place on this one particular aspect of our society, versus all the others I could be thinking about.
Wait, where are you? I thought I recognised you from .ca, but it sounds like you might be thinking of the US system where they can pay nothing except tips. In my province you earn at least minimum wage as a waiter, and tips.
If I were to just straight up refuse to eat from restaurants under any circumstance, I’d be heavily incurring those intangible costs I mentioned, because it’s an expected social thing. That being said, I might consider it if I was in the US, but I’m not.
Also, tips have expanded well beyond servers, but that’s kind of beside the point.
Well you thought wrong. I was born and raised in the U.S. and lived there until about two weeks ago when we fled.
And in my 47 years in America, I was never in a situation where I couldn’t say, “no thanks” if someone invited me to a restaurant. And who invites you to restaurants and makes you pay?
Like, most people. Unless they offer, it’s not culturally expected to be a gift. “No, I won’t discuss this over coffee”/“no, we can’t have the meeting at a restaurant” would go over like a wet fart, and explaining that it’s because of minimum wage workers wouldn’t make it much better. (FWIW I’m also poor enough that’s a pretty big expense, but middle and upper class people hate being reminded people like me exist)
Congratulations on getting out. Best of luck wherever you are now.
How about, “let’s eat at this restaurant instead, they treat their workers better?”
Is that really so hard?
I have no special knowledge of the working conditions of local restaurants.
Have you tried talking to people who work there?
And why would they tell me, a relative stranger who, while actually local, seems kinda like a dirty city liberal? Or worse, they know who I am and that I’m weird.
You seem to be making a ton of assumptions about what my local environment is like, how much time I have, how good my Lemming social skills are, and how much importance I would place on this one particular aspect of our society, versus all the others I could be thinking about.