• FeelzGoodMan420@eviltoast.org
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    1 month ago

    Kids can also completely ruin marriages. I know multiple people who have straight up told me “my marriage used to be great and then having kids ruined it.” Of course kids can also bring tons of happiness! But it’s not universal.

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      1 month ago

      I guess that’s one perspective. Another one might be that their marriage wasn’t as great as they thought it was in the first place.

      Kids are stressful, no argument there. But blaming kids because their marriage buckled under the added stress just feels like an easy excuse. I suspect there were deeper issues that those people weren’t particularly interested in exploring.

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        1 month ago

        Yea that’s definitely possible. I completely agree. But some people just have like a stress cap, ya know? It can put you over. There are definitely multiple reasons why it could happen.