cross-posted from: https://lemmy.ca/post/24342829

This is in a very early stage of development and is not designed for people who are in a relationship. I probably need to add more items. This might become a diagram.

• Prohibition of absolutely any commitment (the word “commitment” is not specific enough; maybe “exclusive attention” covers most or all cases)
• Tolerance for anything having a big influence on who I date or marry
• Fear of fear itself (applied broadly)
• Prohibition of text communication with someone who’s not responding, even if I don’t know the reason or whether or not there’s a technical problem (this prohibition is made possible by the prohibition of commitment, the tolerance for anything having influence, and the fear of fear itself)
• Clinging instead of giving up when about to do a planned courageous task (such as saying hi to crush)
• Focus on finding natural complimentarity
• A lightweight filter that greatly reduces risk of creepiness without any measurable sacrifice (it should exclude things like “I think about you every night” and “you’re cute”; but not things like “I like your hair”)
• No separation between platonic and romantic (todo: make this more specific)
• Interact with girls I feel like interacting with, even if I can’t put my finger on anything other than appearance that attracts me or I don’t predict that the interaction will give me something other than short term enjoyment