Ah, thank you and sorry, I should have just searched before posting.

Part of the issue is the quotes from Facebook rep saying they only do this with public posts, makes me wonder if its user error, platform lying, a bug, etc. but fuck all that. Any situation like this is strictly the platform’s fault, idc if the mother is mistaken and actually posted it publicly, if that’s possible then it’s bad design. Invest more in UX and less in user manipulation. If a parent was intentionally whoring out their children, we’d expect the platform to prevent that, not enable it.